The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/DifficultShoulder505 on 2025-04-16 13:11:10.
Today I (22F) slept in while my boyfriend (26M) went to work. For context I’m a stay at home mom and we have two toddlers. Last night I had a really difficult time sleeping as our toddlers found their way into our bed, so I went and slept in our guest bedroom. This isn’t unusual and happens 3-4x a week. I woke up shortly after falling asleep in the guest bedroom to my boyfriend using the restroom. All I remember is him asking me what I’m doing and why I left. I was half asleep and responded “go away.” When I woke up next it was 7:22am. I woke up to our toddlers laughing quietly, terrifying. It went on for too long and I didn’t hear my boyfriend check up on them so I got out of bed and noticed my boyfriend had already left for work. I freaked out and ran the primary bedroom to find our kids playing with a little tub of Vicks. My phone was on the nightstand next to the kids and my boyfriend did leave a message that he left at 6:32am (after walking the dog). When I called him to ask what happened, he asked if I got his text message. When I asked why he didn’t just tell me when he left he told me because I told him to “go away” when he woke up in the middle of the night. I was very upset since the kids weren’t changed and soaked through their pull ups and they were left unattended. He said that it was my fault for sleeping in and sleeping in the other room. He got very upset and was adamant I was in the wrong, am I?
Context related info: • my boyfriend never mentioned that he was going to leave early today. • he normally leaves 7:30am - 8am and he always tells me goodbye before he leaves if he leaves early. • my oldest said that his dad said goodbye when he left and told them he was going to work.