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[–] [email protected] 31 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Hate is often just a reflection of insecurities and a product of attempting to alleviate cognitive dissonance. Someone feels scared, doesn't like feeling that way, and so converts their fear into anger -- misdirected at someone else.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 days ago

Balance is the key. True that fear leads to anger and anger to hatred and a path of the dark side, but the Jedi were also guilty of dealing in absolutes until they were fighting outright fascism via space capitalism and clone contracts they built killed them all.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 6 days ago

This is part of why confidence is attractive.

It isn't that confident humans of the male reproductive caste treat women more flippantly; it's that actual competency correlates with not being as much of an insufferable whiny piece of shit.

[–] [email protected] 28 points 6 days ago

I remember the last time I got messaged by some misogynist dipshit, way back in Halo 5, blaming me for losing the game. ...When he was the worst performing player in the team. I just stared at the post game report and wondered how the heck the dude even managed to get a ranking as low as he did.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 6 days ago

My daughter wanted to wear my headset when I was playing battlefield once. It was so funny listening to those losers rage because they Were getting stomped by a 5 yr old girl. Now days she still puts it on from time to time and it's still hilarious.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 5 days ago

That summary may also explain why some men are so insecure about women earning more money than them too.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 6 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

That’s an interesting study. It makes sense that dominance-seeking behavior follows a ‘low-risk, high-reward’ strategy across species. The connection between status, objectification, and primate behavior is fascinating Morse Code Translator—wonder if similar patterns appear in different cultural contexts.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

Just remember that evolutionary biology is largely considered quack science, often by evolutionary biologists themselves (at least in terms of how ev-bio is used to write papers and books about how horny men and women act in bars, and why your Tinder profile isn't working and what it "means" when she texts you a certain way.)

[–] [email protected] 11 points 6 days ago

I was a Halo 3 try hard and if anything I was nicer to female voices because I stupidly wanted to woo them. IDK exactly what the logistics of that would have been thinking back.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

work to improve the skill gap or draw 20

acknowledge that one singular woman is currently better than you at this one particular skill or draw 20

man it's like there are options that don't involve aggression towards another person for… not being bad at a video game

I count myself lucky the men I know in real life are chill, and that I am not too interested in PvP games, scared off by the constant reinforcement from stories online that someone will be shitty to me because I am a woman. When I did play TF2 it was always pubs mic off and with a very gender-neutral username.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 days ago

I got hit on a couple times in Starcraft 2 of all games just because I had a feminine-sounding username. I literally got "damn girl, look at that MMR" once and it's so funny.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 days ago

Noted : misogyny is a submissive issue

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago

Didn't sample all of the shitty halo players that are too afraid to talk to a women.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

Incel in a nutshell:

Manchild in the brain!

Weird Al, take that one with my blessing and run for the hills... cause judging by the downvotes, the incels have my scent.

[–] [email protected] 135 points 1 week ago (5 children)

🌏👨‍🚀🔫👨‍🚀

[–] [email protected] 30 points 1 week ago (5 children)

I am in mad love with this Darmok-ass comment.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 days ago

Darmok and Jalad when the misogynist raged.

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[–] [email protected] 115 points 1 week ago (13 children)

I never understood this mentality, myself.

Gamers: "I never get laid... 😩"

Also Gamers: "Women are just kitchen accessories."

[–] [email protected] 27 points 1 week ago

because you think of "I never get laid" as a normal human need to connect with another person, which is what it is but they're too deep in misogyny to realize it. instead to them getting laid is a quest to complete and it involves a quest item known as a woman, not a character. so I never get laid has less of an undertone of "why can't I connect with a woman" and more of "when will we get our government mandated sex slaves"

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[–] [email protected] 87 points 1 week ago (6 children)

"but behaved more submissively towards players with a male voice" I want to know what they mean by submissive

[–] [email protected] 91 points 1 week ago

They were less confrontational and more likely to accept direction

[–] [email protected] 79 points 1 week ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 days ago

"Given the chance, they would definitely lock lips with the dominant male"

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[–] [email protected] 30 points 1 week ago

They got into some freaky shit in those lobbies.

[–] blockheadjt 28 points 1 week ago

Appeal to authority. Higher-skilled male players got to call the shots, lead, delegate etc.

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[–] [email protected] 77 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Obligatory footnote: EvoPsych is mostly bunk, deeply intertwined with eugenics and riddled with homophobia, sexism and rape apologia.

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[–] [email protected] 70 points 1 week ago (21 children)

I have ~10k hours in counterstrike across multi game versions and accounts. I noticed a similar thing over my years. The players doing well in a match were often neutral towards gamer girls, but the guy having a shit match would be the fastest sack of shit every time. Especially if one of the top fraggers pointed out they were being beaten by a girl.

Obviously there are always exceptions to any rules but in my anecdotal experience the guys who were confident in their abilities didn't care about women but losers would attack them just for speaking.

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[–] [email protected] 67 points 1 week ago (4 children)

Well then the obvious conclusion is that respecting women makes you better at video games.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 6 days ago

More likely higher ranked players finally figured out that keeping harmony within your team does wonders for your chance at winning. The amount of infighting I've had to stop just to save my elo is insane, why would i start something just because of someone's gender.

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[–] [email protected] 51 points 1 week ago

I have noticed that all of these misogynists are incredibly insecure alpha-pretending males. Can't imagine how tiring this constant fear must be.

[–] [email protected] 33 points 1 week ago (3 children)

So my transition from cringe lord to become a better individual overall is actually just me getting better at video game? Fair enough

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 days ago

Absolutely.

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[–] [email protected] 31 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Reminds me of this: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0361684319871913

In short. The higher the social status of the woman compared to the man, the more likely the man is to sexually objectify her. Wheras women aren't more likely to do this based on relative status.

Objectification is defined as reducing a person to solely looks and sexual function.

Similar stuff is seen in primates. Females are easier targets to assert dominance over. Since they are physically weaker. Male long tail maqacues losing their status, would seek out younger/weaker targets to establish dominance over. Something that was interesting too, is that female maqacues with more masculine facial features, were less often subjected to dominance seeking behaviour (from both males and females if I recall correctly) than females with more feminine faces.

It seems to boil down to "who can I dominate with little risk?" Female? Easy. Big male? Stupid idea. Young male? No problem. Male of equal size? Potentially.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

That thing about macaques is interesting.

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