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Lost my boy today (sh.itjust.works)
submitted 1 day ago* (last edited 16 hours ago) by darkdemize to c/[email protected]
 

I'm heartbroken. We found out he was FIV positive shortly after we got him, but that doesn't make the loss any easier. He was only 1.5 years old. Hold your cats close for me tonight.

Edit: I fell asleep, so I'm sorry that I didn't respond to everyone. I'm very thankful to everyone for the kind words and support.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago)

We lost our sphynx very dramatically two weeks ago, and he was only 10 years old with no prior health issues, so I know how it feels.

You're not alone.

Me and my partner are still devastated and find ourselves sobbing uncontrollably every day.

It was like losing a child.

Life is on auto pilot these days.

I hope I'll see a good day again.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 8 hours ago

Im so sorry to hear that. I lost a cat to FIV in the past as well.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 10 hours ago

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My girl is getting older, pushing 9, and I dread it everytime I think of her not being there.

He looked like a good boy. Sorry.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 hours ago

I’m sorry you lost your boy.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 hours ago

I'm so sorry for your loss :'(

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 hours ago* (last edited 11 hours ago)

He is in a better place, hunting and cuddling in purrhalla

[–] [email protected] 11 points 17 hours ago

So sorry ☹️ Adopted and cared for even after such a diagnosis. He was lucky to have had you.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 19 hours ago

Sorry to hear that:(

[–] [email protected] 8 points 20 hours ago

Very sorry to hear this. I'm sure you gave him a wonderful life for the time he had with you.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 19 hours ago
[–] [email protected] 43 points 1 day ago (5 children)

I'm right there with you. Today I held my 16yo dog for the last time. 😭

[–] [email protected] 4 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago)

Sorry to both you of you. 😢

[–] darkdemize 25 points 1 day ago

I'm so sorry. I hope he went peacefully, knowing he was loved.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 day ago

I'm so sorry to you both. Losing friends is incredibly hard!

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 day ago

Condolences on your pup 💔😞 hug your pillow extra tight tonight

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

That's so sad but 16 years is a hell of a run! Lots of memories in there for sure.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 19 hours ago

And she wasn't slowing down at all until this weekend. She just shut down.

[–] [email protected] 32 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Here's our gray cat making our pup feel trapped.

[–] darkdemize 19 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Thank you. I see a lot of similarities between your cat and ours. I hope you have many* more years with yours.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I lost my 20-year-old best girl in October and still feel the hole in my heart so strongly, even though I adopted a sweet new kitty two months ago.

As someone else here on Lemmy said to me: may his sunspot never move and may he rest in play. <3

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago)

I'm happy for you two and the time you had.

Next year it will be 20 years since I lost my best boyo, but he is still in my daily thoughts, in the weight-memory on my lap & chest, and he visits me in my dreams from time to time.

His face is the only face I can actually ever recall at will.

The inevitably failing memory over time is ... there, eventually it will win.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

I lost my 19 yo 10 months ago. I think about him every day. I'm still heart broken.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

I tell everyone that it’s both, “I had her for TWENTY years!” with excitement and joy for how long I had her in my life, and how lucky I was to have her such a long time. AND, “I had her for twenty years,” so I don’t even remember who I was before her; she was so much of my life and it is so much harder to live without her now.

I’m sorry you’re also dealing with this kind of pain. It sucks. <3

[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 hours ago

Ditto!! <3 He was my best friend. He was so special. He tried telling us of our miscarriage before we knew. He knew when his adopted brother was going to die. He got me through a lot of past trauma. He was invincible; it was his name (Muteki, invincible in Japanese). But he couldn't beat his failing kidneys. We buried him in our back yard. I still bring him pistachios to play with; they were his absolute favorite "toy".

Thank you for responding and may the memories of yours live forever.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 23 hours ago

What a hamsum boy.

Oh man, big ol cat hug squeezy incoming for my lil guy

I hope you're able to transition through the grieving process well, friend. It's never a bad moment to stop and take a real deep breath and feel the pain, it's going to come regardless and it's always better to accept it in these situations.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

I’m so sorry! My first cat had FCOV/FIV just as Covid happened in early 2020. His death really affected me but taught me a lot. I hugged him until the end. I know your pain.

Thanks for the reminder of impermanence and cherishing our family and pet family! I struggle with imagining my current pets’ future deaths.

I’ll add he is super cute! I can tell he was a very good boy :)

Since I saw someone else shared a cute photo I will too:

[–] darkdemize 16 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Thank you! I'm missing him so much right now. He should be in my lap, and he's not 😭

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 day ago (1 children)

As I believe with my cat, both we and they are lucky to have chosen us to go through this disease. He got a loving home. He must have felt very safe to sit with you such. And you got to take care of a special animal in need of love and care.

I’m so sorry! That is such a sad feeling.

[–] darkdemize 12 points 1 day ago

Thank you so much ❤️

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 day ago

Gone too soon. So sorry for you loss.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Sorry to hear about your boy, however short is our time with them, we do our best to make their life enjoyable and while it is painful, they do love us back. So remeber and cherish of all the good times you two had.

My about 8 year old girl (had her for 4), got diagnosed with an aggressive cancer last week. Nothing we can do but let her enjoy all the luxuries of her short remaining life. I am sure she knows she is cherished and had her best life with us.

[–] darkdemize 15 points 1 day ago

I'm sorry to hear. Do what you can for her, and try to make her remaining time with you memorable and comfortable.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I'm sorry for your loss. I'll give Bella some extra blankie time this evening.

[–] darkdemize 15 points 1 day ago

Thank you. Please give her a hug on behalf of this random Lemming.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I have a gray cat that looks a lot like him. He's my everything. He is so sweet, wants cuddles & purrs so loud. I'm so sorry for your loss.

[–] darkdemize 20 points 1 day ago

Thank you. He was so loving. Here's a picture of him sitting in my lap.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Beautiful boy. He was lucky to have known true love and have a forever home in you ❤️

[–] darkdemize 15 points 1 day ago

Thank you so much for the kind words. They are truly appreciated.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Sorry for your loss. Hopefully you can find peace in the fact he crossed the rainbow bridge knowing he was loved. Take care ❤️

[–] darkdemize 9 points 1 day ago
[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Sorry for your loss. Rest in peace beautiful boy. 💕

To the downvoters of this post, I hope you get a really bad hangnail.

[–] darkdemize 13 points 1 day ago

Thank you for the kind words. They mean a lot.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 day ago

I'm so sorry 😭 he was such a pretty baby. I'm sure he had an amazing life with you 🫂🫂

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

This is aweful. My condolences.

[–] darkdemize 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Thank you. I'm lost at the moment.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 day ago

I understand, there is nothing worse then losing a part of your family.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Thinking of you and sending comfort.

[–] darkdemize 6 points 1 day ago