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Even better if you can provide your own understanding of its meaning.

Mine would be :

"Nothing kills a man as much as being forced to represent a country" (and err considering the context, I must stress it has nothing to do with the current US shitshow), by a WW1 soldier, illustrator and writer named Jacques VachΓ©.

For me it just means being forced into representing a group (national, of course, but maybe also social, racial, sexual, professional, any kind of group) or defining one's identity only by reference to a group is to be avoided at all costs.

Note : Its not the same, imho, as engaging in a collective struggle or defense against a common oppression.

How about you?

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 hours ago

It’s a poem by Stephen Crane, but so short I’m often reminded of it in full:

A man said to the universe:

”Sir, I exist!”

β€œHowever,” replied the universe,

β€œThe fact has not created in me

A sense of obligation.”

It sounds nihilistic, but it’s somehow calming whenever I start to feel like I’ve been wronged or I’m owed a break of some sort.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 hours ago

I got two. First is just Hanlon's razor; "Never attribute to malice what can be attributed to incompetence"

The second one is a bit of a strange pick; its "But there's no sense crying over every mistake; You just keep on trying till you run out of cake."

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 hours ago

Fortune favors the bold.

It was written in a graduation card from my grandfather.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 10 hours ago

"Don't let perfect be the enemy of good."

I would be so far ahead of where I am right now if I had just decided on a course and committed instead of analyzing all the choices to death.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

Hold on tightly, let go lightly.

The Croupier in Croupier.

It doesn't come with extra instructions, so it means what I want it to mean and someone else may have it mean something else entirely. For me it means hold on to the important things tightly while they are important and when they aren't then it is time to let them and other things go.

Don't carry things that don't need to be held onto, especially if you can't control them. I hold onto the memories of my sister both good and bad, I embrace the pain of her not being here anymore when they come, then I let the pain go because I keep ahold of the happiness she brought into people's lives while she was here.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 hours ago

Hmmm. I'll try to remember this one, thank you, that's a real gift.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 8 hours ago

Men are scared that women will laugh at them , women are scared that men will kill them.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

Dad told me when I was young to "learn to drink your coffee black and cold and you'll never be disappointed."

I don't think he was just talking about coffee.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

As in have low expectations of everything?

[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

More like be grateful for what you're given

[–] [email protected] 1 points 8 hours ago

That's much more wholesome!

[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

"Don't follow people - follow ideas" which seems more relevant today than ever before it seems.

[–] sbv 1 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

I feel like this is most appropriate with politicians. No politician will be everything you want, but if they have a few policies you're into, they're worth your vote.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

I think it applies outside of politics as well like art and even business.

[–] sbv 2 points 8 hours ago

Totally fair.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 hours ago

"It is not that we have a short time to live, but that we waste a lot of it." -Seneca

When we complain about not having enough time, we think of ourselves as being passively allocated an insufficient resource. But maybe the problem isn't that life is too short, but that we waste much of the time we're given.

I think this is relevant in these modern times more than ever. How much of our time goes to mindless scrolling, worrying about things beyond our control, or pursuing goals that don't truly align with our values? We should be thinking about the difference between being busy and spending time meaningfully.

And that's not to say all time spent should be something "productive". Leisure time can be meaningful. But I think it's worth even thinking about that. Are you truly happy with how you choose to spend your leisure time when you watch 100 short videos you probably won't even remember? Or when you sit there getting angry or depressed about article after article after article? I think it's worth thinking about.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 14 hours ago

You are under no obligation to be the same person you were five minutes ago. - Alan Watts

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 hours ago

Golf: A nice walk, ruined.

[–] Grandwolf319 3 points 9 hours ago

It’s always darkest before the dawn.

How I interpret it is that when things get bad, and reach a new level of bad, that could be just what is needed for the pendulum to swing the other way, and swing extra hard.

Kind of like a Great Depression giving labour laws kind of a thing.

Gives me hope.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 hours ago

Those who don't know history are doomed to repeat it. Those who know history are doomed to know it's repeating.

It's the second part that makes this otherwise well know phrase hit much closer to home for me.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 hours ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 3 points 10 hours ago

Rewatched that recently. I was really surprised how dark it sometimes gets for a kids' show. It still holds up really well!

[–] [email protected] 18 points 16 hours ago

I would rather have questions that cannot be answered than answers that cannot be questioned.

Richard Feynman

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago)

Sadly, pretty much all struggles against a common oppressor take on heavy identity characteristics and have the accompanying problems. It's the main reason they don't work immediately.

Anyway, probably "What I cannot build, I don't understand", by Richard Feynman (although the exact wording varies by source). If I write a book that's probably going to take up the first page.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 hours ago

"Everything you want in life has teeth", by the writer Jonathan Carroll. I believe it means that everything you pursue will hurt you in some way.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

Never tie your identity to something that can be taken away. Re: job title, salary, perceived status. Your self perceived identity should have a much more stable foundation.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

I like it. Remember where it's from?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 hours ago

A former mentor of mine, and I found it rather compelling the more I reflected on the implications.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago) (1 children)

"Do to others as you want done too you" Wouldnt say its under rated just not actually followed by the masses that preach it but i prefer to say "dont treat people how you wouldnt want to be treated"

[–] Ajen 4 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

IMO some people take this too literally. Just because you want to be treated a certain way doesn't mean other people want to be treated that way.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 hours ago

While that is true. i think it's more on a deeper level that everyone just wants to be loved.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago)

The worst decisions make the best stories. - Unknown

[–] [email protected] 6 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

"Nobody will take care of you if you don't take care of yourself"

Apply this to pushing back on contracts, double checking what you're asked to do, and putting yourself first, and you'll get a lot more respect in my experience. If you primarily put others first, your self will feel neglected. It doesn't mean you should not care for others, but that your highest priority should be yourself, and then others.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 hours ago

A life lesson I'll learn one day. Trying my best though, but it'll take time. Thanks for sharing.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 18 hours ago (5 children)

"Who I am is where I stand.

Where I stand is where I fall."

-Steven Moffat, Doctor Who

I have a lot of darkness in my head due to my upbringing. I'll never get it out. That doesn't stop me from being a good man, because who you are and what you'll be remembered as isn't your internal struggle, its what you chose to stand for in practice.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 13 hours ago

You can't leave the party if you can't find the door. Randall Jacobs, aka Uncle Bunky

obituary, worth reading

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