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Designed by men, for men: Why sex with robots does not have appeal among women
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You're telling me women don't like vibrators.
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Realistically how is a man going to design a good sex robot for a woman? Let a woman do that, they'll get what they want.
Women already have the perfect sex bot. It's called a Sybian.
✅: Does what it's asked to do
✅: Doesn't talk back
Well i guess im a woman then lol
I'm no expert on attraction, but what if the sex robot looked like a skeleton?
Speak for yourself. Gimme that drama free dick.
They don't ~~that~~ have that much appeal to me as well, and I'm a dude.
In these sexual relationships, availability and consent will always be taken for granted, something that’s never taken for granted in a sexual relationship with another human being.
People could get used to interacting in a way in which the other person isn’t taken into account as much, meaning that sexual partners could be instrumentalized for the purpose of having sex. That is to say the ‘human-humanoid’ interaction could be transferred to the relationship between two human beings.
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Unfortunately, however, these advances aren’t being accompanied by deep reflections about the consequences that sex with robots can have.
never taken for granted
In healthy relationships anyway
I guess a vibrator isn't a type of sex robot?
Just saying that these sort of toys were way more normalized for women long before they were for men.
A man with a fleshlight was a gross weirdo, a woman with a vibrator is a strong independent woman taking control of her sexuality and not settling for the weakness of flesh in men.
This was my thought. Its the same way all our technology has grown. Honestly I think brain interfaces could eclipse robots like this before they are that great. As scary as that is.
Colloquially, the word "robot" always implies a certain amount of anthropomorphism. So no, I don't think a vibrator would count, as basically no vibrators on the market try to look human-like.
But that definitely is a weird difference between male and female sexuality - the sex toys women buy most are the very effective and utilitarian ones: Vibrator wands, Rabbits, Air pulse Vibrators etc.
While the most popular tools for men tend to focus on "realism"(?): Fleshlights, Sex Dolls, things like VR and POV porn. And I guess sex robots would fall into that category too in the future.
I can absolutely see the weirdness-factor of someone who is desperately trying to emulate a partner rather than just accept masturbation as a solo activity and optimize it from there 😬
A robot doesn't need to be anthropomorphic, an assembly line robot is still a robot. It does however need to be able to perform some actions autonomously, for which a vibrator hardly qualifies.
It does however need to be able to perform some actions autonomously, for which a vibrator hardly qualifies.
Fuck Machine has entered the chat
An assembly line robot (like welding or material handling, I've worked with ABB, Fanuc, Motoman, Panasonic) are still called robot "arms" with the end portion often called the "wrist" so there is a degree of anthropomorphizing even if it's not the whole body. And they do resemble an arm, however with 6 axis motion the motion is more like from your hips to your wrist than shoulder to wrist.
Overpriced pornstar-branded fleshlights aren't the only masturbators in town and it's not like there's no life-like dildos either. The long and short of it is that the mechanics of a lubed hole are superior to that of a hand and you're not looking at the entry point all the time so noone actually cares what they look like.
Yes, the branded stuff does exist, humans, male female, doesn't matter, enter parasocial relationships news at 11. Can you imagine how well Justin Bieber dildos would sell.
Of course this is a thing lmfo.
Dildos and vibrators were first a medical devices for hysteria.
Dildos have been around a lot longer than that. https://allthatsinteresting.com/history-of-the-dildo
My understanding is that "hysteria" legitimized the use of the vibrator (not unlike how "weight loss" was used in the 1980s to prescribe fentanyl), but they were around before that, and probably would have found another way of entering the mainstream.
Vibrators, too, if you count the hollowed out wooden dildos filled with angry bees.
Sex with a hella sexy robot? Nice.
Using a hella sexy robot to fill the emptiness of no intimacy or authentic mutual connection? Not nice.
For some reason sex with a robot doesn't feel gross to me — until they start using it to fill a hole (hehe)
What about for people who struggle to have emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy throughout their lives because of medical issues or mental health issues?
My ex has a brother who is now pushing 40 and has never even held a woman's hand. He has severe mental disabilities and will never live life on his own without some kind of caretaker. We know he looked at porn, partially because he refused to ever let people fix up his computer, usually out of fear of people seeing his porn.
Does he not deserve emotional and sexual intimacy? There is a high likelihood he will never have it otherwise.
until they start using it to fill a hole
What about, like in the situation I just described, when that hole will otherwise go a lifetime of being unfulfilled? Is that fair to them for being born a way they didn't choose?
Different filler for different holes.
A sex bot is fine if you keep expectations in check. For the rest, friendship can go a long way. Help them find a hobby they can share with others (regardless of gender) and keep that platonic. That gives them social connection, and the sex bot gives physical release.
It's not as good as a complete relationship, but at least there's less risk of the sex bot creating more problems by trying to have it do human things.
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From the movie Cherry 2000. In the movie the hero has just lost his sex robot and is trying to date human women for the first time in a while.
It's a favorite campy classic of mine. I love bad movies.
I also think it's one of those films with a great idea but terrible execution that could be remade.
I want to see a remake where Cherry 2000 actually has agency and consciousness and at the end of the film the two women run away together leaving the creepy guy behind.
I always thought a remake could have Chris Elliott as the creepy guy and he would kill it in such a role.
Make robots look like bears or dolphins?
In this current age of western dating Sex Bots at least cut out all of the bullshit for many men and give you basic companionship with the perks of sex, which is a lot easier for some than dating.
Holy shit
and this is why uBlock origin is the be all end all of extensions.
But FREE browsing! How revolutionary.
I've seen this more and more, it's fucked up and probably illegal
Think I've seen this twice now in the past couple years, but yeah it's likely not compliant with the cookie law in EU
This is perfectly legal, the law only says that the user must freely choose to allow the website to save said data. You can opt out here and not use that website.
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Lots of German Web sites do it.
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All it took was one search to find plenty of contradictions to that post title.
Isn’t the answer quite obvious?
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