I (29M) am in a bit of a pickle and need some unbiased opinions. My sister (27F) is getting married next month, and it's supposed to be a joyous occasion.
However, there's some serious family drama that's making things complicated.
To give some context, my family has always had a strained relationship with my wife (30F). They never really approved of her, and there have been countless passive-aggressive comments and cold shoulders over the years. My wife has tried her best to be polite and cordial, but it's taken a toll on her.
Recently, my parents went a step further and openly criticized my wife during a family gathering, blaming her for driving a wedge between me and them. This led to a huge argument, and I defended my wife, which only escalated the situation. My sister was present and didn’t intervene or support us, which hurt even more.
Now, with the wedding approaching, my wife feels extremely uncomfortable attending, and honestly, I don’t blame her.
She’s been treated poorly for years, and this latest incident was the last straw. I told my sister that if my wife isn’t welcome, I won’t attend the wedding either. She’s upset and claims that I’m being unreasonable and ruining her big day.
AITA for deciding not to attend my sister's wedding to support my wife? I love my sister, but I feel like my loyalty should lie with my wife, especially given the circumstances.