I (19F) was recently informed of my ex-gf, Ava (21F) passing away. We hid our relationship due to her not feeling ready to come out, and while it wasn't a good relationship for either of us, I still care for her. I confided in a mutual friend about the true nature of our relationship (our friends were under the impression we were just really close friends who had a falling out). He didn't react well to the news, which was surprising to me, as he knew full well I am attracted to women. He went and told some of her friends who already dislike me. They made a group chat and slammed me for 'ruining her reputation' and revealing this information when 'her family is already dealing with a lot.' Should I have just kept quiet? I figured with her passing, it wasn't like anyone could harass her for her identity, and I didn't want to deny our relationship while I was grieving her. AITA?