My wife (41F) and I(31M) got married in 2022. In 2023, I lost my job, and since then, we’ve struggled a lot to pay the bills. Thankfully, at the end of last year, I got a new job, which has given us a more comfortable life. We’ve been slowly paying off our debts and making plans for an emergency fund, moving to a better place, and buying a car, among other things.
Two weeks ago, my wife spent around half of our only credit card limit on beauty procedures—without telling me. She only told me three days after paying for them because she was terrified that I would get really mad and even consider divorcing her. I was indeed very upset at first, but seeing how anxious and sad she was, and knowing these were procedures she really wanted, I told her it was okay and that we’d figure it out. She also made it clear that she would personally cover the amount she spent.
What makes this situation even more surprising is that my wife has never done anything like this before. We’ve always been very transparent and honest with each other, especially when it comes to finances. So this was completely out of character and caught me off guard.
That said, the expense still left us with a much lower credit limit than we should have for the next few months. Without really thinking, I told her, “Well, then I’m going to buy my PS5 to balance things out.” I’ve been wanting one for years and saving up for it, and where I live, its price is pretty similar to what she spent. She agreed without hesitation.
But now I’m second-guessing myself. If I go through with the purchase, would I be the asshole?