The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Unlucky-Literature35 on 2025-02-19 13:10:41.
My bf (26m) came home from the gym in the morning and was getting ready for work. I (29f) was able to go in to work a bit later than normal so I wasn’t rushing out the door. I came in to his room to talk and say hi for a few minutes since we don’t normally get to do this as part of our routine. I was mainly the one initiating the conversation during this time as he was getting ready. He opened a bottle of a new supplement and took one. I had never seen or heard of the supplement before so I asked him what it was for. He replied “I don’t know”. I felt that his response didn’t make sense because he spent time purchasing the supplement online and must have bought it for a specific purpose. I felt that he was just trying to brush me off and end the conversation. I said that he must have bought is for a specific purpose but he wouldn’t answer me and walked out of the room without responding. I followed him to the kitchen where a fight began because he felt like the response “I don’t know” was a good enough answer and all he knew was that it was an ingredient found in red bull that helps you relax. I understand that he probably didn’t know much about the supplement and he was stressed and in a rush to get to work. From my perspective, it seems like he just didn’t want to be having a conversation with me in the first place because he was in a bad mood/stressed getting ready for work. Couldn’t he have communicated to me that now was a bad time to talk instead of brushing me off and getting angry? AITA for taking his response personally?
Edit:
Thank you everyone for the honest feedback. I really struggle with having an anxious attachment style. I think I picked up on his stressed mood and my mind started thinking it must be something to do with me or our relationship. When I get in that mode I start looking for things that I can use to prove my anxiety is true. His “idk” response was just the perfect opportunity for my brain to find confirmation to support my idea that his mood was off because of me. I am aware I have a lot of self-growth to do and I appreciate everyone taking the time to reply and help me gain perspective about the situation.