Am I the Asshole?

The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Tricky_Jellyfish_324 on 2025-02-19 04:16:09.

My husband and I have been going around and around over a lot that we were gonna purchase. We initially were going to purchase it and then decided we didn’t want it anymore . Then we decided maybe we wanted it . We found out the owner was going to sell it and then my husband told his father about the lots and he purchased both of them. The lots were about 15k each . For some reason I thought he had his dad get them until we could buy them ourself . That was not the case . Apparently I “misunderstood that” . Moving forward. My husband asked his dad about purchasing the one lot so we could build a house and his father said he wanted 25k for the lot because he needed to recoup some money . I’m not happy about this . I can’t imagine profiting off of my own children and I thought it was a joke when he said that . It however was not a joke . We do not own a home . We have been renting for over 14 years . I was so upset about this I talked to my pastor who seemed to understand why I am angry . My grown children live on the next few lots over with my grandchildren or I would not even be considering moving there. It has caused several arguments between my husband and myself . He is willing to pay them what they want and I just want him to acknowledge that it’s wrong of them . All he says is that he would not do that to his kids but doesn’t think it’s wrong . I’m having trouble letting go of how I feel …. So am I the asshole ?