I just don't tell people. It never leads to anything good.
this post was submitted on 03 Feb 2025
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It is broader encompassing, but you can just say Neuro divergent
Squirly
Degenerate
Hello, I’m unfiltered.
I'm like 95-100% filtered at first to avoid upsetting anyone. Very rarely, I'll make it to 0% unfiltered with only the most accepting and trustworthy people.
If you're medicated you can say "I do drugs." 😎
Medicate is very... out of one's control
I'm on meth rn 😀
Neurodivergent, no need to be specific
Neurospicy
I hate this, but I use it because "I'm from a neurodivergent family" sounds worse to my ears that "My whole family is some flavor of neurospicy."
We have 2 ADHD+anxiety, 1 dual ADHD+Au, and 1 dual ADHD+NVLD.
absolutely hate this phrase.
Ok, it's your moment. Let's hear it all. Dump it. Why do you hate it?
I also deeply dislike the phrase for much of the same reason as the other replies. It's a phrase that evokes high-functioning TikTokers looking to quirkily stand out from the crowd and in general downplays the reality of many neurodivergent people and their very real, very tangible struggles.
it's such a heckin pupper way to describe one of the biggest challenges i deal with in my life. i'm not grim about my neurodivergence but i'm sure not perky about it either.
I can't speak for hypnicjerk, but I personally dislike the term because it feels too glib.
I can't do shit because of executive dysfunction and I forget things all the time, that's not "spicy", it's preventing me from having a life.
This makes me think of Tabasco. Not that it's good or bad. It's neutral. I'm just sharing.
I like neuranno peppers.
I just say ADHD'er
I feeeeeel....I ☝FEELLLLLL☝ (pls don't get mad at me) like when I tell people ahead of time of my neurodivergence, they take it as me coming up with an excuse to be rude in the future.
I don't understand the context
Everyone has met an asshole that says they're neurodivergent to get away with purposefully being an asshole. When you go up to them and tell them you're neurodivergent, look at their eyes. If they squint, what they just heard is that that you're an asshole.
I like to call it the "ta da!" because the Spanish acronym is TDAH. Who doesn't like being able to say "ta da!"?
I gona have to implement that, it is kinda hard for me to say TDAH in a fluent way.
remember back in the early days of windows.. like 3.1 era... when windows started, it did that. like "see? i actually booted up!! TA-DA!!"
I usually describe myself as "a bit much."
I started there, but I eventually got to the heart of it now and just say I'm an asshole.
I'm fine in small doses...
Just don't get me started.
This is the disclaimer
To that I say "if you think I'm too much, go find less."
We all tried to come up with a nice concise term for ADHD but ended up writing multi page papers instead.
I started thinking about it, and thought that adhd kinda looked like a palindrome, which made me think of anagrams and how they're often used as a reveal in bad mystery plots. So I wrote a program to generate anagrams from an input in rust because I wanted to learn rust and never thought much about the algorithms for generating anagrams before. I then hit some complexities with multiple words as anagrams. I'm currently optimizing the dictionary look up by refreshing my knowledge on searching and sorting algorithms.
I expect to make more progress on this task tomorrow.
Dopaminded
I’m so quirky!
Derptistic
I've used "spicy brained" and people seem to get it.
It might be that I am approaching middle age but I wouldn't have got that. I would have thought you were calling yourself hot headed or something. Like you had major anger problems or maybe act kind of unstable. Is it a reference or common saying?
There is the term neurodiverse, which is an easy catch all for neurologically abnormal, but not broken.
Neurospicy is a play on this, spicy vs bland. People have strong opinions on spicy, very few have strong opinions on bland food.
Not neurotypical? No need to get into specific diagnoses
At-def
I gave a joke answer, but I also have heard the term "kaleidoscope" to describe the shifting mental state, and I liked it. Maybe "kalaidoment"?
It's not exactly what you're looking for but I have described having ADHD as like having a TO-DO list except any time something new is added to the list you have to roll a dice and decide which thing on the list you're going to do right now. On the rare occasion nothing else comes up before you finish one task you'll be golden. But if anything should pop into your mind it throws the entire things back into the random TO-DO list which you will then reroll.
This is the perfect visual example of what living with ADHD is like: https://youtu.be/AbSehcT19u0?si=EwsCg-xZVZOpbbLN