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Also here is the head mod defending a transphobe/chaser https://hexbear.net/comment/3762972
"x-tard" will never be and has never been funny. Disappointed that the mods would take down calling that out. Hexbear has been making some pretty good arguments about the overwhelming white middle class-ness of the instance. The fact that the only Vaush community I've seen is on Blahaj is a great example of it. Even Reddit libertarians aren't cool with using "tard" though. This is literally worse than Reddit libertarian moderation, and that's pathetic coming from a space that's supposed to be inclusive.
Nice post. Once the emoji bug is fixed, you'd be getting the gold star above the spoiler.
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It really is odd to defend such a toothless phrase. It just alienates people who are neurodivergent/disabled or know people who are who would get slurred with it. And it's not like the liberals would actually be insulted by it. What's the point of using it, outside of feeling like you're 13 again.
I'll perhaps acknowledge there's an ironic use (i.e. sometimes Hasan will use it when ironically saying what a conservative would), but even that makes me cringe.
The chapo podcast quit using it, so if they work to stop, I don't see why posters can't.
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Yeah Hasan sucks too. Does he suck less than most streamers like V**sh or D****ny? Sure. But that is a very low bar to clear.
Hasan just sucks for far different reasons. Vaush is actively aggressive towards leftist people of color. Maybe I just haven't seen enough cause I don't watch react streamers, but Hasan just seems a bit out of touch because of his money. As far as streamers go, I think he receives far more hate than is warranted.
my biggest issue with him is that he's willing to drop slurs. he's a bit on the lib side with the electoralism but like that's not a huge deal -- having a streamer explaining Marxism is just plain a good thing. but he needs to do some self-crit on the slurs.
Ah that makes sense. Like I said, I don't watch him so I didn't know about the slurs. Yeah he's pretty much the only mainstream streamer who actually understands being a leftist.
To be clear, those removals were by a community mod, appointed by another community mod. As soon as I became aware of them, I restored the posts in question and messaged the community mod, making the expectations of the instance clear.
ableism is something that's so quickly brushed off and dismissed by many and it's not always easy to push back on. for every hard fought and argued step forward, "jokes" like this are many steps backwards. we're not perfect on our instance, but we try out best to catch and remove ableism and we listen to our neurodivergent comrades to make sure we're doing the best we can.
if not for other instances that have to see this content, please consider having solidarity and respect for the neurodivergent users in your own community. how are they ever supposed to feel like you'll listen to them when things like this happen?
ableism is something that's so quickly brushed off and dismissed by many and it's not always easy to push back on. for every hard fought and argued step forward, "jokes" like this are many steps backwards. we're not perfect on our instance, but we try out best to catch and remove ableism and we listen to our neurodivergent comrades to make sure we're doing the best we can.
Agreed, and it isn't just jokes. It's way too common for some edgy people to call others "insane" for disagreeing with them, for example.
I’m OOTL, is “insane” now an ableist term or whatever? Or does it just depend on the context?
yeah this is the type of mod activity that can wreck an instance. report reasons should be tied to the code of conduct. the code of conduct of blahaj disallows ableism, yet this mod uses ableist terms in comments then when you push back, they remove the comment and give a removal reason with more ableism
and then there are the chasers, who have no place in a queer community. not a coincidence that this comes from 196, a largely vowsh watching community
Vaush is so fucking bad. Dude explicitly defends his use of slurs on stream. Why can Vaush call people the n word? Slurs have no place in a leftist space. My child is non-verbal, this mod is using the language people insult my child. The comments left by OP were calm and reasonable. The mod didn't even try to argue it in public because they know there isn't a good response to "don't use slurs".
I posted about this on hexbear as well, and as someone who has an intellectually disabled family member, this kind of behavior, from a mod, is really gross. I'm glad to see blahaj members pushing back against it
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My kiddo is autistic and non-verbal. I am enraged over this. And I bet it was on 196 too. I'm done with Moss' shit, she cannot moderate in a safe space because she only cares about it being her safe space, not the community's. I've seen so much casual bigotry pop up in these anti-hexbear threads and it's really eye opening. So much dehumanization and gatekeeping of the queer experience. I'm officially done with 196. This was already my backup instance, I've just been waiting for FMHY to start back up.
Ada is a really fucking cool admin, she is a great community runner. But 196's mod team is consistently a single tier above 4chan trolls.
I tried real hard in those comments to be diplomatic too, and I was called "braindead"
I'm ready to take the gloves off honestly, just hoping Ada sees it and reacts in a positive way.
We can see your comments you know?
You went around stating shit. That’s cool - up to a point - but at least own it.
I'm ready to take the gloves off
This is some bullshit playground posturing pseudo threat.
Like what the actual fuck dude.
Disappointing that people use that suffix, or complete word. It is ableism in every way. I'm really not sure why people who consider themselves progressive or left-aligned feel that is still an OK suffix/word to use unless they feel that the people that word abuses are of no worth or worth no consideration.
It's a rotting leftover of 4chan culture and it should have turned to dust already, but it's kept going by edgelords.
Here's a couple sources about it:
Chicago Tribune- Here's an offensive word we should retire right now (2016)
Taking the R-word and adding "lib" to it doesn't make it any less offensive. And what bothers me is that those who combine "liberal" with that word are not insulting their intended targets — they're insulting an entire group of people who have done nothing wrong, all while perpetuating a term that simply needs to go away.
Anchorage Press - Why [word] is Lazy and Offensive (2020)
Combining the R-word with liberal makes it no less offensive.
"An offensive word used by some people on the extreme right of politics to refer to someone who holds left-wing political beliefs"
It's not just us Hexbears who find it offensive. Even if it's used ironically, I think we can all agree that the ironic use of offensive language still has potential to cause harm and should at the very least not be above crticism.
E: I'm pro-federation and I want to soothe things over, and I think the admins of both Blahaj and Hexbear are committed to that, but it seems like this mod is intentionally trying to burn bridges. This all happened underneath a post where they publicly posted a private conversation with one of our mods for the purpose of mockery. I've been trying to get people to tone it down on our side, but none of our people are going to listen to calls for civility in the face of ableism. We support our neurodivergent comrades.
Yeah, saying this right now, 196's main mod consistently posts bait. Ada is a great admin and community runner, I feel bad that I have to consistently see her step in because Moss fucks up so much obvious and easy shit. Moss posting a blurred picture of her conversations with Hexbear admins and blaming the blurring on Ada is shitty, posting ableist slurs and using them in mod messages to people calling you out is shitty.
These are actions that cause a lot of drama within the community, and take less than a few seconds of thought to know they're bad ideas. Moss consistently wants a drama filled community and it sucks. It's like the second one of these ridiculous bait post become old news, OH SHIT HERE'S A NEW ONE FOR EVERYBODY TO SALIVATE OVER!!!!
My impression is that Blahaj accepted the 196 lifeboat without necessarily knowing much about it. Many of us on Hexbear had experiences with it on Reddit because on the surface it seems cool, but it's always had some strong Vaushite tendencies that we really dislike.
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Imo he plays the controversy game of "Say stuff that makes group A mad at me in order to appeal to group B, who hates group A." That leads to saying problematic and harmful stuff but there's always this layer of plausible deniability, and all criticism, legitimate or not, gets dismissed as coming from the bad outgroup ("tankies"). When our site first started we had a ton of posts criticizing him but then we figured out it's better to just ignore his antics. 
I've been worried since the start that federation with 196 was a ticking time bomb, but I've been pleasantly surprised that the users haven't really been posting bait or trying to antagonize us, but unfortunately I can't say the same for this mod. From what you said it sounds like they do similar controversy bait tactics.
while I'd like the trans communities to remain linked, I don't want to do so at the cost of exposing trans and disabled comrades to ableism and chaser shit.
The posts in question have been restored and the mod in question spoken to about ableist language.
The mods are free to remove the posts again, as long as ableism is left out of it
The first one, no question. That word has no usefulness.
The second I’m on the fence about. Lately there have been a A LOT of attempts to derail discussion about pretty much anything using exactly that argument. I can’t fault a mod for putting a lid on it.
making an argument with verifiable facts isn't an attempt to derail a discussion -- it's an attempt to further the discussion. the OP is an anarchist, not some tankie.
Eh, you can definitely use verifiable facts to derail a discussion.* It all depends on context and whether those facts are being framed truthfully and with good faith. There just isn't enough context to go off of here. I don't really care about OP's politics because the point stands whether I agree with his politics or not
*Edit: See the book Merchants of Doubt about how cigarette companies in the 70s misused scientific findings to cast doubt on the link between cigarettes and cancer. Stuff like pointing out how women and men had similar smoking rates, but not cancer rates. They left out the part that women smokers tended to be much younger. Thus, in a couple decades their cancer rates matched men's, but by then the damage was done. Bam - use of verifiable facts to lie and derail
*Edit: See the book Merchants of Doubt about how cigarette companies in the 70s misused scientific findings to cast doubt on the link between cigarettes and cancer. Stuff like pointing out how women and men had similar smoking rates, but not cancer rates. They left out the part that women smokers tended to be much younger. Thus, in a couple decades their cancer rates matched men's. Bam - use of verifiable facts to lie and derail
ok yep, fair. completely see your point. my point was just that the comment was in good faith and from someone who doesn't even have a political allegiance to the projects he's talking about.
but all of this is secondary to the main issues which are:
on hexbear, we don't tolerate this shit and we don't want to expose the vulnerable members of our community to it.
In don’t think we agree on what the main issue is here.
My main issue is people starting shit and escalating, then when the mods take action escalating again to the instance admins.
I think that “you on hexbear” need to take a chill pill and let the shorks run their instance.
I don’t know op or his politics, but the comment is clearly baiting and escalating. Unless the comment goes to the heart of the discussion at hand (which it might, but I don’t know), I think the decision to remove is defensible.
Note that I’m saying defensible, not correct, or great, or just. I’m not a big fan of just nuking comments in general, but moderation is hard work and as far as I’m concerned, this falls squarely within a mod team’s authority.
Oh boy, here we go
As always, drama is fueled by incorrect information and wildly out of context posts. I'm the "chaser" they're talking about. It was my post.
Someone literally asked me if I would date a pre-transition trans man or a post-transition trans woman, and I said yes. That's all. Not a chaser. Just one specific response to one specific question about my personal preferences.
And I'm a straight cis man and 99% of the women I've dated have been straight cis women. Just because statistically that's how it shakes out. I find it a bit hilarious that I've been labeled a chaser by these dummies.
Original thread: https://kbin.social/m/[email protected]/t/216880/rule#entry-comment-914639
Then the Mod of 196 made a now removed thread
A screenshot of that thread was used to start a new thread here: https://kbin.social/m/[email protected]/t/228474/Wtf-is-with-all-the-blatant-transphobia
Ykw I appreciate you clearing this up and saying so. Those defederated losers were using the "unchecked transphobia" and "chasers amuck" rhetoric to distract us from their bullshit. And you, wrongfully, are the victim of their libel.
It's valid to have genital attraction preferences. Hell it's valid to say you'd try it, and it's valid to talk about trans people but make a logical error.
Chasers aren't going to stealthily and intelligently snake around, they will probably double down immediately.
Isn't the significant presence of hexbear folks here pretty solid evidence that their admins don't have good control over their users (or rather that they have no interest in following their own rules)? They were specifically told to stay out of metas for other instances.
no, it's solid evidence that we're all uncomfortable with the blatant ableism on this instance and we're explaining why
I was under the impression that we were only supposed to stay out of threads that had a disclaimer like this:
This is an admin post, intended for blahaj lemmy users. Top level posts from members of other instances will be removed.
I'm not aware of any request not to make or comment on a post like this.
Admins have very little visibility into what their users are up to in other instances and no control aside from easily dodged instance bans.
