Ask Lemmy

You’ve got the choice of who is in your life and to what extent.

It’s a little bit complicated when it’s family. But you still have the choice, on a long term scale.

I know that feel.

I used to be surrounded by the type who answers "no" with "I don't take «no» as an answer". Eventually I started cutting them off my life, and things became so much better. That included a fiancée, a few "friends", and plenty acquaintances. For family the only serious case died so I didn't need to.

For the ones still in my life I make sure that they never get what they want if they insist past a limit. Asking again to be sure, or if conditions changed, is fine; but if you ask again because you want to tire me down, I'm probably boycotting what you want, and I don't care if I sound petty. Eventually they learned when to back down.

I'm almost 30 and can happily say I don't have to do that too much because I never talk to those people, ever. As Tyler, The Creator says: Fuck em'.

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