Upfrontness is good, saves both of you trouble later.
this post was submitted on 22 Nov 2024
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I do agree.
Sounds like a bad first date, but nobody here is going to be able to impartially comment on a conversation we weren't there for. Just know you're not an arsehole for not wanting another one with this person. Your reasons are your own and if anyone else wants to judge them, by all means ignore them.
When you tell the right person, it won't matter how you do it. They'll understand, and you'll feel it.
Yes, thank you.
You seem to have bumped into something that she's already struggling with. I don't think you handled it wrong. Good luck, dating sucks.
The other half and I bonded over BPD on our first date, we’ve both got it. I don’t remember who brought it up first, but we both shared the intention of being open about it since day 1.
Open communication is our strength. I feel that when I’m able to say to them out loud that I’m depressed or having a manic episode it helps me be more mindful of it.
They also said that the first time they tried that, it didn’t go well.
Luckily I have a date which I told in the very beginning and instead of reacting like I was trying to manipulate her told me she deals with social anxiety, anxiety and depression herself. She said that she's got another chronic illness but didn't feel comfortable sharing now, which I respect.
It sounds like she has an issue you don’t like either! (Nurse syndrome!) I disclosed mine immediately to my current partner myself.
Right maybe we're just not right for each other
Don't know the whole conversation, all the subtext/body language, bit from my experience, there's never anything wrong with disclosing your disorders. It's part of who you are and what makes you, well you. They was open with you about there thing which was good. Although how you both handled could of been better, again don't know the subtext, it's probably best to part ways.
Always remember you are valid and others disabilities are valid too. Sometimes it just doesn't work out. And sometimes certain disabilities can clash a lot. And that's ok. Just move on.
It's not disclosing your disability that would make you a asshole. It's how you dealt with it. From what I saw you was open and honest about it. Things clashed a bit. That's ok.
Nah you're not the asshole but if someone isn't warm to the idea of talking about disabilities, don't make it your personality. A good way of making sure you're not turning your disability into your personality is make sure you talked about something else you're passionate for first.
(not saying you did this, but it's common with ADHD kids)
I am not making it my personality but thank you for the advice.