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Safe US Communities? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
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Looking for ideas of where to move next. Places in the US that are lgbt friendly, and preferably have good trans healthcare. I'll probably never be able to move to any of them, but it would be nice to pretend for a little while.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago)

You should come to Kalamazoo! We’ve got a really great free college tuition program (although that might not really help very much if you haven’t gone to public school here) with A really beautiful and vibrant downtown.

I major in visual arts, and the campus is integrated directly into the city. it’s actually in the middle of the first pedestrian mall in the country. It looks absolutely beautiful in the winter.

Western Michigan University and KVCC bring in an absolutely massive population of neurodivergence, forgein exchanges, and a wonderfully healthy queer community.

We’re a small enough city so that it’s not overwhelming, and large enough to avoid being a Karen infested sun-down town.

(Plus, you get to live in a city with a funny name)

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 hours ago

Philly has been great to me. I’d say west or the gayborhood if you can afford it. I live a bit out of the city and def see some yard signs and bumper stickers that give the ick, but there’s good queer community, and I’m meeting more trans people almost every weekend.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago) (1 children)

Just left the dust gross buthole of texas, and now love my new home in the Minneapolis Metro,and that's despite not having found the right combo of housing/job. I live in my car and have never felt more safe (from antitrans hate) than now.

can't really leave that recommendation without qualifying it: thats probably of because I'm not a POC. I do have interactions with the police fairly regularly. And i'm accutely aware of my privilege each time.*

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago) (1 children)

I'm just south of that area now. I'm considering moving up there, but no plans yet. I haven't had great experiences with healthcare in the area and it's making me not want to stay

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 hours ago

I'ma second MN, but a little norther: Duluth :3 It's extremely white up here but all' the hunams are very nice and helpy, and Essentia is a lovely health system as far as I'm able to see (rather, the people in it are wonderful :3 ). There are waitlists for everything, though. Uhhhmmm... dunno if you're as poor as I am but services for stuff relevant to that are pretty available. Easier if you can handle phone calls. Responses are mostly by mail.

Also, we have pride events that bring critters up from Minne(apolis) so I think probably reasonably pridey <.< I struggle to go outside much though :-\ Oh, and we're on the biggest of the 10,000ish lakes in the state ;3

Also, like the Twin Cities have Minne and the boring one, the Twin Harbors have Duluth and the crappy cheesy one 😅 At least, I hear the water's bad over there. Our tap water rocks! Is delicious!

Anyway, is nice here I think. wiggles farewellily, skitters away

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 hours ago

https://www.equaldex.com/region/united-states

Go to the bottom of this page and it's got by state.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago)

I have read Illinois and Minnesota have decent laws on the books, and they might be more affordable than the other places listed (so far NYC, California, Seattle, and Denver). Probably better in cities like Chicago or Minneapolis than in rural areas, of course (which unfortunately means more expensive).

[–] [email protected] 8 points 16 hours ago

https://www.lgbtmap.org/equality-maps

[–] [email protected] 4 points 15 hours ago (4 children)

Why limit yourself to the US? Many other countries, including just about all of the other English-speaking countries, offer more trans rights than the US.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 9 hours ago

becoming an immigrant in a foreign country is generally much harder than moving to another state

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

My plan right now is to get a degree and move out of the US in the next 2-3 years, preferably to somewhere in Europe. Texas isn't the best for trans people but since I got my license changed before the ban went in place (even though I'm def on the list :p) and I pass pretty well, I'm not too worried right now. Ofc that all depends on November, might have to emergency move to Canada if things end up going south 😅

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

As an immigrant you won't have the same rights as a citizen in Europe or Canada, and you will have to get someone to sponsor a visa for you to remain in those countries legally. It can be quite expensive, too - why aim for Europe or Canada and not a trans-affirming state in the U.S.?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

I just know the US is not the place for me, and neither is Canada. I love the wide range of cultures in Europe, the walkable cities and public transportation, the better social programs, and the Schengen area allowing me to visit tons of other places in Europe on a whim. I just know it's right for me so I'm willing to work towards that goal, to get a work visa and work my way towards citizenship.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

The Schlengen area only allows U.S. citizens to visit for 90 days. For the long-game I guess you could try to get citizenship in a EU country, though, but that will take a long time and be difficult. In the meantime you will have to find a way to get longer-term residence and visa support - might be relevant to what degree you get, if there is high demand for a particular education.

Either way, good on you for knowing what you want. There are walkable cities and public transportation in some places in the U.S., but I understand if Europe excites you more anyway. I wish you success!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

90 days is a really long time haha, so I don't mind that limitation for other countries. I'm still trying to figure out exactly what I am pursuing and what would be most strategic, but it seems like there is a lot of demand for IT jobs in many parts of Europe. I'm very interesting in programming, computer science, computer hardware, and networking -- really anything with computers or electronics tbh. So surely there's some niche I can fill.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 hours ago

I don't know what kind of service would do this, but I assume there are legal firms or services that help people figure out how to emigrate. This is a very long-term project, so it is worth really thinking through and planning, but if you can plan it even this early it might really help. I wonder even if you could find degree programs in Europe so you go to school there and might be more likely to make connections and find jobs. Getting a job is one of the hardest parts, as I understand it.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 10 hours ago

It's hard to move out of the states, and my degree isn't a high enough level to let me get a work visa in my current field.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

Where do you get the visa to stay in the country from?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 14 hours ago

Each country's immigration department website.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 16 hours ago

Denver is alright. Colorado idk. Denver pulls everyone here left. Though, for the most part I’ve been ok.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 18 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago) (1 children)

NYC is very queer friendly, so is Salem MA

[–] [email protected] 6 points 16 hours ago

It socks that all the places seem to be…. Expensive.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 16 hours ago

Seattle, WA