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Anything that makes you apply your hand to your face.

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[–] [email protected] 169 points 6 months ago (4 children)

This is called skin to skin and when my kid was born the staff was telling me to do it, supposedly had a bunch of benefits for the baby and it gives them some time to take care of mom. What I can tell you is it felt amazing.

[–] [email protected] 115 points 6 months ago (2 children)

As a dad to four kids, skin to skin is absolutely essential to a life long bond and making your children feel comfortable and loved. Fuck this sexist bullshit.

[–] [email protected] 22 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

Yep, dad to three kids. I can’t imagine not having newborn snuggles. In many ways it is 100% beneficial for the baby. When babies snuggle close to a chest, it is often a signal to eat. Sometimes they can get frustrated when mom does it 1) when they don’t want to eat but are being smooshed into a boob that smells like breast milk or 2) when they want to eat but mom doesn’t want to or can’t feed at that moment. Snuggling with dad or a second caregiver is a great alternative.

The most peaceful sleep my kids tend to have is after being fed then baked nicely under a blanket on my warm chest.

Dad’s deserve bonding time too

[–] [email protected] 12 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

Started a new job, but 4 days before my wife got flown to our area's leading hospital due to complications with the pregnancy. So day 4 rolls around and I'm literally ~5000ft underground, no cell signal, get back to surface and check phone ASAP. 4th child,1st daughter, born 3 months premature hours earlier. First chance I got I drove the 8 hours to see them and within minutes of arriving it was skin on skin with this smolly. She was heckin early but healthy. Every opportunity I got, I'd drive down for snugs. It was around her OG expected due date before we could bring her home. Almost 2 years later and we're besties.

[–] [email protected] 67 points 6 months ago (1 children)

supposedly had a bunch of benefits for the baby

Yep!

Helps them regulate their breathing rhythm and their body temperature. Likely transfers beneficial skin bacteria.

And it makes them feel safe.

[–] [email protected] 33 points 6 months ago

More importantly, it helps them go to sleep easier, deeper, and longer.

Strip the kid down to their diaper, lose your shirt, lay back on the couch watching a movie or reading a book with a light blanket over both of you.

That pretty much describes my evening after dinner when my boys were under 6 months old. If you do it right after they eat it's pretty much a guaranteed 3-4 hours of peace even with a newborn.

[–] [email protected] 37 points 6 months ago

Agreed, I did the same, it's highly encouraged now. Frankly the thought that others might find it strange didn't even cross my mind, but wouldn't have discouraged me in the slightest.

[–] [email protected] 27 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I did it too, my little guy pooped all over my chest lol. Totally worth it.

[–] [email protected] 30 points 6 months ago

Ah, yes, the ole 2 way bacteria transfer.

[–] [email protected] 134 points 6 months ago (4 children)

I mean, that's just kind of sad that she didn't have any nurturing men in her life as role models.

[–] [email protected] 70 points 6 months ago

Tell me you have daddy issues without telling me you have daddy issues. Or something. Idk.

[–] [email protected] 37 points 6 months ago

I wish her dad loved her in an appropriate and caring way.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 6 months ago

This is absolutely projection 101. You know immediately her father was absolutely nothing like this.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

“She”. Pfp is AI generated. Pretty sure it’s a dude behind the account who isn’t even Irish.

[–] [email protected] 74 points 6 months ago (1 children)

She is so right. Progressive gender roles are a cancer. She should get back into the kitchen, unable to own property, no right to vote and shut her mouth if she doesnt want to feel the back of my hand. /S

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 8 points 6 months ago

I like my women all dolled up, if she doesnt do the housework in high heels and have a martini waiting for me when I return home from a hard day of sexually harassing my secretary...

[–] [email protected] 50 points 6 months ago

This provides warmth to the baby from their fathers, which in the case of this cold hearted frigid iceberg of a woman, they will definitely need it.

[–] [email protected] 41 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Fellas, is it gay to hold the child you produced after fucking a woman?

[–] [email protected] 20 points 6 months ago
[–] [email protected] 38 points 6 months ago (1 children)

With a reaction like that I didn't imagine Karen there is much of a nurturer herself.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 months ago

That seems to be more of a learned trait, and it's sad she didn't have any good role models growing up.

[–] [email protected] 38 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Those disgusting men! How dare they provide warmth and love to their children!

Next time I want a photo of the baby on a block of ice while the father is in a suit and ignoring him.

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[–] [email protected] 23 points 6 months ago

If this isn't just b8, Is this person telling us their father never hugged them and in the same breath holding court on what affection is? Guess their father never taught em self-reflection neither

[–] [email protected] 22 points 6 months ago

Men have soft comfortable fur.

[–] [email protected] 22 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Fathers can and absolutely should be involved with their children. I can't imagine why having a good father figure is bad for anyone.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 6 months ago (1 children)

"Skin to skin" is a thing and I'm so glad it is. We had a 5 week early premie and the nurses said that the skin to skin contact with either parent helps so much. They, the midwife, and everyone else that helped us for that matter really promoted it.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Don't a lot of US hospitals charge extra to let you do that?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago

I honestly have no idea, but healthcare here is completely fucked.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 6 months ago

Wow, social media has given a platform and a means for out reach to people without any sense or decency. People like this lady are weapons grade morons who inflict so much psychic damage. In some ways, the cure for this is to ridicule her type of behavior. So here we are

[–] [email protected] 18 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

To be fair, if current-day McGregor was holding a child that small (or anything else fragile and cherished) I would be pretty nervous.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago

I fucking hate that cunt, but ahe somehow manages to outcunt him, which is quite the achievement

[–] [email protected] 15 points 6 months ago

Literally was told to hold my kid exactly like this by the nursing staff at the hospital.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 6 months ago

Im soft and comforting fuck you

[–] [email protected] 12 points 6 months ago

The patriarchy doesn't just hurt women.

[–] felykiosa 11 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

One she can go fuck herself men should love their children ! Two at this point this men have huge tits I m pretty sure he can feed his baby.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 6 months ago (1 children)

YESSS HE HAS BIG PECS WHERE HE STORES ALL THE MUSCLE MILK

[–] felykiosa 3 points 6 months ago
[–] [email protected] 11 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Fellas is it gay to love your children

[–] MeDuViNoX 5 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

Extremely, my dad was the straightest man I knew. 😢

[–] [email protected] 9 points 6 months ago

I will never quit hugging my kids, libs=owned

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

I think it's great I really do, but is the hair really comfortable, though?

I'm 44, straight boring white guy so I would not know, and my chest has about as much hair as the baby's butt. I always imagined that hairy chests are rather prickly, but admittedly I never gave a serious thought until now. And I'm kinda boring and shy so I hope there's more than one way to find out.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 6 months ago

If men aren't nurturers, why do women come to us with hands out?