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I have an issue with being bored and depressed alot, i take meds but i stil feel like osmething is missing. is there a solution to deal with theses things becasue i feel constanly bored, are there any tips or sulutions to solve this? also i rant about being bored to everyone even the internet.

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[–] wildbus8979 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Find a hobby, learn a new skill, keep occupied. That's it, there's not much to it, you're not going to magically feel unbored without keeping active.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

are there any hobbys worth getting into? becasue i feel kinda lost.

[–] wildbus8979 6 points 1 year ago

That's a very personal decision, not one can tell you what makes you tick... Do you like food? Start baking... Do you like anime? Start drawing... Do you like nature? Start hiking... Plants? Start gardening...

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Learn a language and go to a language meetup. Yoga or other exercise, martial arts . Cooking and nutrition. Meditation.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

Go for a walk. It doesn’t matter how long or how far you go but simply getting up and moving resets your mind. Walk in a different direction, listen to some music, podcast or audio book to change things up.

[–] Sniffy 6 points 1 year ago

volunteer in your local community and meet cool people

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Start trying hobbies until you find something you enjoy.

[–] relative_iterator 5 points 1 year ago

Meditation is probably what you're looking for. It basically teaches you to accept that bored feeling and just feel it. You're probably just seeking out the dopamine hits too much so you need a good reset. I struggle with the same problem sometimes and I definitely need to meditate more.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I think you should look in to some mindfulness practices.

Why are you bored? Are you really even bored? What is boredom? How do I feel and how do I change that.

Its a super simple concept but it really helps in self betterment, dealing with emotions, ans getting to the core of your own desires and helps to lead a more fulfilling life where you actually do the things you want to do because you actually want to do them.

Retrain how you perceive boredom. Its your mind and body telling you something. Listen.

Also, a quote I heard when I was younger has always stuck with me. "Don't do what you love, love everything you do" . Basically, try to put your all into everything and take pride in even the smallest of tasks. I've found its very helpful as far as mental health is concerned.

Personally I play guitar and drums and write my own stuff. I always can fall back on that because it's something I LOVE to do. Find something you really love and stick with it. Get good at it.

Make the most of your time here.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

I think joining a local league or group with something that interests you. I found curling. The first year you get to know people and even if you end up grouped with people who you don’t 100% click with you will be able to find other people who share an interest and would probably group with you the next year.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Not really answer to your question but... https://youtu.be/LKPwKFigF8U

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

For me, the best prescription has been scheduling things for myself. Even mundane things like "I'm going to check the air in the tires tomorrow." But also "That movie I've been meaning to watch for ages will be watched by me next Tuesday."

Then, I try to keep a running mental list of things I can be doing, but which have no particular priority - reading, playing a video game, watching something, ticking a chore off the to-do list. If I'm feeling indecisive, that's a sign that maybe none of the things on my list are any better than the others, and so I'll pick one at random and force myself to get it started and put my whole attention into it. That's usually the hardest part. Once I get going and force myself to put the phone away and engage with something, it's easier to melt into it, and I'm no longer bored because I'm now busy.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Lol I dislike forbes but there is a good article: https://www.forbes.com/sites/bryanrobinson/2020/09/02/why-neuroscientists-say-boredom-is-good-for-your-brains-health/?sh=69c399611842

So overall, I think the bigger issue here is the depression, because boredom can be quite nice with a certain mindset. Gives you time to think and wonder what you want, time to be creative or perhaps seek out someone you haven‘t had time for in a while. Boredom for me is a sign that I now have some time to do whatever I like and have no stress (I‘m bored today, so I‘m browsing lemmy and thinking of what I want to do).

Depression is rough though and something I still haven‘t fully escaped from, but for me what helped was identifying sources of my depression (I had a terrible job for example which had made me much worse for a time and a toxic family member I cut off). With that, therapy can sometimes help because it‘s you telling someone a lot about yourself and they can give you an outside perspective to maybe see where the root of your unhappiness lies.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Self-host Lemmy (and a bunch of other stuff).

Read a book. Read another.

Learn an instrument. Youtube is helpful for this.

Start going to the gym, every day.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Have kids. Only partially joking, because I wish I had time to be bored.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Get in touch with your instincts. If your mind and genome don't agree with what should be done either you get mania (genome gets tricked to funnel libido into strange places), or depression (genome takes away libido to starve away things in the mind it doesn't like).

For starters, sit down and ask "ok, back of my mind, tell me about that boredom and us in general, I'm listening. What's up with that shit". Be wary of wishful thinking. Also, make some sandwiches, some tea, put everything in a backpack and take a walk.

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