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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/ChardOk6123 on 2024-01-24 17:57:40+00:00.
We have been dating for a year, exclusively, and we are not seeing or dating other people. He is very open about his depression and says that putting the label of boyfriend is too much pressure because due to his depression and avoidant attachment he feels like he cannot meet boyfriend duties properly. He is in therapy and works on these things, but says its still work in progress. He is very open to me and told me he never deleted his dating apps and sometimes swipes for validation. He is reluctant to delete his profile because it makes it official to him. He showed me his apps and I see he does not reply to any messages, but still it does not feel good to me. Apart from the above, all the relationship is wholesome, we are very open with eachother. we are supercompatible and the best communicators. In the beginning of the relationship I was fine with going with the flow, but after 11 months, I come to the point that I understand he cant be a proper boyfriend but would rather be fully committed and deal with his depression as a team. I feel ready to be boyfriend girlfriend.
Should I wait for him to be ready or end things?
TL;DR Guy im seeing since 11 months does not wanna make our 1 year relationship official due to mental health issues. He struggles with depression and avoidancy, he is in therapy. Should I wait for him or end things?