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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/undeniablytiredd on 2024-01-24 04:19:19+00:00.
For context, me (24f) and my boyfriend (28m) have been together for a couple years and living together for over one now. We clicked immediately and early on went through a pretty big loss together and that really solidified for me that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. We now talk very candidly about eventually getting married, how many kids we want, when we want them, financial planning, religion, etc. He’s truly the best person in the world and life is amazing with him.
Here’s the catch … Right before he met me, he bought a house. It’s beautiful and honestly didn’t think we would be so young living in something like this. However, he has three childhood buddies that were happy to move in with him. In the past year, I’ve had my own issues with these guys and their living habits that I won’t get into... For the most part I get along with them, and I am happy that they pay most of my bfs mortgage.
Since my name isn’t currently on the house title, we agreed I wouldn’t pay rent and instead I would be able to invest more of my income monthly. We came to this arrangement, as the extra savings will benefit us both in the future and it gives me some protection if we ever parted ways.
I told him I want my first kid by 29 and he said that he agreed, and was on board with that timeline. I want to be married for a few years before having kids and I just feel like his friends are a roadblock to our relationship moving forward. Apart from his mortgage, neither of us have debt. I make $75k and he makes close to $100k, so it feels silly that we would be getting engaged and still living with roommates, because it’s not like we are tight money by any means. What do you all think? Am I overthinking this?
Tl;dr I want to get engaged but my boyfriend still has his three childhood friends living with us in the home he purchased. We have good salaries and no debt so Is it weird to get engaged but still have roommates with us?