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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/Grand-Wrap9034 on 2024-01-23 03:26:40+00:00.
I (26f) gave my boyfriend (26m) of 3 years $25,000 with a contract in place to trade in the stock market. He had around $2000 of his own money making the total in the account 27,000 some of you may not be familiar with the stock market but if you have under $25,000 in your trading account, you are limited on the amount of trades you can take. so for his birthday last year I gifted him $25,000 to be borrowed with a contract in place that the $25,000 would never be risked on the stock market (this was done by using stop losses) and I would be sent a biweekly update of the account with a time stamp and date. He just confessed to me that he lost $500 of my 25k. I feel that it is worth mentioning that I currently pay all of our bills and have been since October, as he is interning and has a job set up with a trading company come March. Now, I’m not really too upset about the money I understand things happen people get emotional during trading it’s whatever, if all goes well he’ll be making well over six figures in the next year. but he lost the money last week and just barely told me. In this past week he has been extremely sweet, very caring, etc.. he usually is always sweet and he’s a great boyfriend. However, it was a bit more than usual, doing the things that I usually ask him to do, keeping up with chores whatever, whatever things I assume every couple has fights about. So I guess what is really bothering me is the betrayal of my trust, keeping it from me, and I feel like him being excessively sweet is almost manipulative. I asked him to transfer the remainder of his account to my bank account first thing tomorrow morning because he broke the contract that we had in place and in the contract it states that if any of the rules are broken that the money will be returned immediately. Am I over reacting? Am I dumb in love and being taken advantage of or used? I don’t know how to feel I feel like this is a show of his loyalty and his respect for me or maybe he’s just human and made a mistake risking too much thinking the trade was a no brainer. He’s a great partner and we love eachother a lot and are both in agreement that we want to get married but this hurts.
TL;DR: I gave my boyfriend 25k to be able to day trade his 2k and he lost $500 of my 25k. Need advice.