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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/Opti-Free31 on 2024-01-22 07:54:24+00:00.
Hi I’m 30m
I’ve gone on a couple dates and have slept 2 times with this girl f26 I met about 2 months ago. We’ll call her nicky She’s really cool from the very start I told her I did not want anything serious. She said she was cool and just having sex was fine with her. I’ve gone days sometimes a week or 2 without hitting her up. I’ll usually see her on the weekend when all of our friends hang out. But the thing is that I know she really likes me and has caught feelings.
The whole time I have been talking and seeing somebody else as well she’s 31f sarah.
I’ve told both of them that I don’t want anything serious I don’t want a relationship and I don’t know what I want. They’ve both said that was fine but still I know both have caught feelings for me.
I hadn’t slept with sarah I had just seen her talk to her made out with her etc.
2 days ago I had sex with Sarah it was a really quick sex I didn’t even enjoy it. Whole time I kept thinking of Nicky. I hadn’t talked to Nicky in probably 2-3 weeks at this point.
Idk why but after having sex with Sarah I realized I’ve caught feelings for Nicky. I saw Nicky today and I feel awful. I don’t know what to do. I know she hasn’t slept or done anything with anybody else other than me. I know she has feelings towards me and I just had sex with somebody 2 days ago.
When I was going out with her today I couldn’t be my usual self because I feel guilty. I know she thinks I haven’t had sex with anybody else. Or idk if she suspects that or not.
Anyways I now know I really like Nicky. I don’t know if I should just keep this to myself or let her know about what I have done. I feel like she will be really hurt or feel betrayed. She’s only had sex with me has only seen me and I have been seeing both of them.
I want to be with Nicky but not sure if I should tell her about this or not I don’t want to have this weighing on my conscious the whole time. I would appreciate any advice
Thank you
TLDR: have been non exclusive with 2 girls. They know I don’t want exclusivity. I had sex with girl#1 2 times in the past 2 months. I just had sex with girl #2 a couple days ago and I’ve just now realized I’ve caught feelings for girl #1. Not sure if I should just hold onto this fact of not letting girl #1 know that I’ve had sex with somebody so I don’t hurt her. Or tell her