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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/Ok_Operation_6116 on 2024-01-22 05:29:37+00:00.
don’t know what to do and I don’t know if I’m being fair in my relationship. For starters I’m (23f) and my husband (22m) have a 1 year old baby. We are in a fairly happy marriage and he always brings up that he wants baby number two. We both know now is not the time because we have limited income and don’t even have a set place for ourselves. However, we have talked and he really really wants a second baby. I used to want many kids too until I had one and I realized how hard it is. At the moment I am the sahm and he provides, however I want to get into the work field too, I just got my diploma, I want to build a career and I don’t think he realizes it. The worst though is he wants this second kid and he hardly takes care of our current one. He never changes poopy diapers cause they make him gag, never wakes up with him during the night, never really does anything except the occasional pee diaper, helps me get him ready for bed occasionally and sometimes plays with him for 5 minutes so I can pee. His excuse is that he is tired cause he works. However, I feel as though I work 24/7 without a “traditional” job. I never get a second to myself and I’m always taking care of baby, who I love, but you know I need a break sometimes. I don’t know if I’m being unreasonable and most guys are just like this, or if he’s being unreasonable because I told him many times I’m severely depressed and taking it out on everyone around me and he’s not helping the situation. I just asked him one thing if he can wake up with me in the morning because it’s been tough on me to wake up due to me waking up and realizing my day is going to be exactly like last night and a month before and a month before that. It’s always the same and I can’t do this anymore I feel like I’m in shackles even tho providing for my baby should be something I love, I just feel like I’m not accomplishing anything, and this just makes me into a bitter woman.
TL;DR; : what should I do