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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/Artisblarg on 2024-01-21 10:45:38+00:00.
Honestly my boyfriend has been yelling at me a lot lately and I’m really scared I’m in an abusive relationship. He is also very sweet and I love him very much and we work together and travel a lot.
I have a pitbull and we let her run around without a leash on a piece of land we live on pretty much every day. Out of nowhere he suddenly got so upset that I let her outside without a leash because he suddenly felt she could be a danger, he thought somebody might be outside but I checked before letting her out and nobody was, and even if somebody was outside, he has no reason to think she would attack somebody for no reason… aside from the fact that she’s a pitbull.
It just feels like he used this as a random petty reason to release frustration onto me. It really really hurts and I don’t think he feels sorry at all, he got mad because I disagreed that what I did was unsafe. Even though I was sure there was nobody outside and I only let her out for a minute, with my eyes on her the entire time.
It’s just weird. Makes me feel like he’s going through something and I don’t know how to help him. I don’t want to end my relationship but the way he has been acting is making me feel like I need to and it sucks.
Any advice? How can I fix this? How do I approach him about how wrong this felt of him to do when he’s had such a short fuse lately? I don’t deserve to be treated this way.
TLDR: I let my dog out on our land without a leash, same as always, and my boyfriend randomly freaked out and yelled at me saying I’m awful and she could be a danger to somebody even though she has never been aggressive to anyone. How do I get my boyfriend to quit treating me this way??