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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/yzmathegoat on 2024-01-20 22:34:25+00:00.
Hello everyone- here’s the background:
Im a 26F and both my parents are deceased. I was raised by my moms side who consisted of just her, my 2 aunts (and their children), and my great aunt who raised them (also deceased). My mom and aunts were taken away by state in grade school because their bio mom had mental health issues and couldnt care for them. So i really know NO maternal family members.
Well, maybe 4 years ago- my uncle (mother and aunts brother who is in his late 20s/early 30s) found my aunt on fb and let her know he was in the same boat. He was adopted and trying to find out more about his bio family and was able to research and find us along with another sister i found out my mom has, and even some elders that live in the south.
We’ve all stayed in contact over the years and he seems like a great guy. Hes in the military and stationed in California right now (we live in Connecticut) and has a fiancé and baby on the way. I’m a huge traveler and have traveled to many states and also internationally- so I’m not green to travel.
I brought up wanting to go over to CA to meet my only known uncle finally and my bf of almost 3 years and father of my infant, doesn’t want me to go. I tried to reassure him of all the ways I’ll be keeping safe and remaining in contact but he doesn’t care.
Any advice?
TL;DR: my bf doesn’t want me to go cross country to meet my long lost uncle who I’ve been in touch with for 4 years