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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/Proper_Fisherwoman_ on 2024-01-18 21:23:32+00:00.
is it weird for wanting to be hugged by friends, especially by male friends i feel confortable around? i always imagine myself lying in bed and being hugged to sleep by one of them. It's just so weird for me, because i can't seem to find a reason why I'd think like that abt people i am not in love with (i never was in my life tho). I am female, 20 yo and never had a boyfriend before. I started university in october and thus got to meet wonderful new people that are now my friends. bc of mental health issues and lil bit of family drama and other things, i never in my life felt ready to be in a relationship at all. Is me thinking like that being lonely or sth? i don't understand it.
tbh, I'd love to be lil bit more touchy (as in hugging, kissing their cheeks, carresing and just sitting close, nothing more nothing less) with my friends. for example, at a big birthday party, one of my male friends was really tired and asked me, if he could lay his head on my shoulders and i was all up for it and gave him my permission. as i got tired, i did lay my head on his too and such. i really love such moments, tbh. it makes me feel at ease which I rarely am. one of my concerns is, that this behavior of mine is perceived differently by people around me. i always get asked if i had sth with the person i was close to, which is hilarious bc I'm far from being ready to be in a relationship. i just wanna be like that with my university friends. my other concern is that people I'm close to like that, may be thinking that i am in love with them or want sth from them or sth. these friendships I'm talking abt are pretty new so i don't know for sure yet how they'd think in such situations.
not being touchy makes me sad and closed up. has someone any thoughts on this matter? as anyone tipps to how i should act or what i should do?
and what exactly can i say to let the other party know that me being touchy doesn't mean that i want sth from him?
tl;dr: how do i manage being me, without being misunderstood?