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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/importantinquiries on 2023-12-27 03:35:18+00:00.
I want to preface all of this by saying I've been seeing her for well over a year and I'd assume she knows my personality, knows I have really thick skin and she is an amazing therapist. She's great at what she does. And most importantly, she is right abut this, I know she is. And I have been like this my entire life ever since a young child. And I'm 31 now. I have always been extremely lazy and had no internal motivation whatsoever. Now I want to change that.
I asked her how to change that and she sent me the stages of change chart (it can be easily googled). She said the whole time she has been working with me I have been in the pre-contemplation phase (in my view, that means I haven't been making much progress lol)...but she says I am now in the contemplation phase and that I am not only in the contemplation phase but she thinks there's a high chance I am very close to slowly getting into the next phases. Which are preparation and action. Which in my view means she thinks I am very close to being close to making some real and important changes in my life. Which seems good.
I asked her what she thinks I can do to get out of the contemplation phase and get into the preparation and action phases. And her answer was to take as many baby steps as I can to slowly but surely make as many baby steps as I can and force myself to take action whenever I can but also don't don't beat myself up too my bad if and when I can't.
Does anyone on here have any other potential advice for me on how to get to those preparation and action phases besides that?
Also, there's a reason for my vagueness in this post. Someone asked me "what changes am I contemplating?" ...I am still trying to figure out the answer to this question. I am disabled due to my disability level generalized anxiety disorder & PTSD so I haven't left the house regularly in around 9 or 10 years. But I don't have any physical disabilities stopping me from leaving the house and my therapist seems to think even mentally I am capable of a lot more than I think I am. Although I don't think how right she is.
But regardless, I guess at this certain moment in time. I am just trying to watch the livestream for a church I want to start attending. And then I want to start going to that church every Sunday or work my way up to where I am doing that. So maybe I should have mentioned that in this post.
But that's really all I know for sure right now. That I want to start with those 2 things and then go from there.