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Thing is, you and your wife must make sure you share the same set of rules. For instance, here I saw someone suggesting that you should put things back to their designated place immediately after you used them. Itβs a good advice, but both of you must commit to the same rule, orherwise youβll end up like me, that is, tidying up after my parter almost all the time. π
dont tidy up after your partner. tidy up after yourself, and let them figure it out eventually.
Let me assure you, this kind of passive behavior does NOT work and only results in being resentful as you wait for the other person to figure it out and they never do.
Don't assume people will figure something out on their own if you care about the result. Communicate openly. I cannot stress that enough.
I totally agree with you.