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I had a six-month-long marriage. My ex-wife was not a nice person and everyone else could see it almost immediately, but I was swept away by how determined to be with me she was. It felt so good to have a woman who was attractive, successful, and very, very interested in me. Too good to be true, as it turned out. I'm not sure exactly what was wrong with her - something like borderline personality disorder? Once I committed to her, she became very jealous and would go from sweet to angry frequently and with no provocation. Although she only ever yelled at me, I was scared of her.
I've made mistakes in my life that were good for me because they were learning experiences. My marriage wasn't one of them - I wish that it had never happened. However, I did still learn from it:
Don't look down so much on people who make obvious, foolish mistakes. You might end up as one of them. I didn't think I was the kind of person who would ever get divorced but here I am...
Admitting that you made a big mistake feels terrible, but the real problem is the big mistake, not the admission of it. I was a fool to be married for just six months, but I would have been a bigger fool if I stayed in that marriage longer than that. I'm still ashamed that I married my ex, but I'm proud that I had the courage to leave.
Time does heal wounds. All my hopes and dreams about the future with her were garbage, my judgement was no better than that of a daytime talk-show guest, and my humiliation was known to every single person who was important to me, since they were all at my wedding. Then years passed, and while I still haven't spoken to some more distant relatives simply because I don't want to explain that I'm not with my ex-wife any more, I have in fact moved on with my life.