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Almost all my life I've absolutely despised children. Pretty much from the moment I stopped being a child I've hated being around children.

It doesn't even matter what the child is doing. Whether they're laughing and having fun or screaming and throwing a tantrum. The sound of a child being loud activates an almost primal rage that I can barely contain.

I've had to leave social gatherings/restaurants/grocery stores all because if I'd stayed I'd have made a complete ass of myself by screaming at a child just for existing.

It's even worse with infants which makes me feel horrible because I know they can't help it. I know the kids don't know any better and it's our job as adults to get them through childhood, but my blood boils when they get loud or demand attention.

Has anyone else dealt with something like this? Is there anything I can do to stop from getting so angry?

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[–] [email protected] 79 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (4 children)

Whether they're laughing and having fun or screaming and throwing a tantrum. The sound of a child being loud activates an almost primal rage that I can barely contain.

This is actually a neurological thing. It has a name and everything (though I can't recall what the name is). A lot of people on the spectrum have it. You may want to talk to a therapist about it, if this isn't merely hyperbole.

[–] [email protected] 36 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (3 children)

Misophonia is the thing you’re describing.

[–] [email protected] 36 points 10 months ago (3 children)

That's the fear of soy paste.

[–] [email protected] 46 points 10 months ago (3 children)

That's misophobia, misophonia is when you don't like how soy paste sounds.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 10 months ago (2 children)

That's the disease that may qualify you for financial compensation

[–] [email protected] 10 points 10 months ago (2 children)

You're thinking of mesophobioma.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

No that's a fear of central vietnamese soups

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago

That's mesothelioma. You're thinking of what happens when the doctor tells you you've got a different disease to the one you actually have.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 10 months ago

Soy paste sounds would absolutely trigger misophonia for me, so you’re not wrong! Haha.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 10 months ago

As dumb as this comment is, you’ve just guaranteed that I’ll never forget the name of this problem, so thanks for that

[–] [email protected] 6 points 10 months ago

I have this too. The sound of chewing is like nails on a chalkboard all through my bones. It's awful.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Oh just what I need more evidence.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Never hurts to check.

Unless you're American and don't have health insurance. Then it might hurt.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I have it. The sounds of people eating, especially slurping or crunching, are literally repulsive. I have to have something else to train my focus on or else I'll get up and bolt.

Other repetitive sounds trigger it too: people popping gum, chewing ice, clipping fingernails, etc. But not too bad with keyboards and typing.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I'm not sure if I have it or I'm just an irritable asshole, but I certainly gave pause when I first read about it because plenty of sounds people make absolutely do feel like a nail being driven into my brain, inducing a feeling of unrepentant anger that is tough to let go of. Though, they're usually sounds most people also find irritating. Like lip smacking and nostril wheezing. At what point is it not simply a common irritation and it becomes a disorder? 🤔

[–] [email protected] 6 points 10 months ago (1 children)

When it affects your relationships and your life. My wife has a complex now about crunching in front of me and chooses food accordingly, which makes me feel terrible.

Or when I can't focus on what my boss is saying because she's eating almonds while she talks.

I just try to find coping behaviors and sometimes literally bite my lip to get thru some situations.

[–] HerbalGamer 2 points 10 months ago

she’s eating almonds while she talks.

eating while talking is just rude

[–] [email protected] 5 points 10 months ago

Yep, autism was my first thought too.