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ugh. Friend convinced me to go roller skating last night.
Felt just like an alien. For so many reasons; I do not belong there. Can't skate, can't socialize, so I just sat there watching the people who can. Only good thing is I can tell my therapist I tried
You just sat there. Doesn't sound like you tried
For some people the mere act of going outside, let alone to a gathering with people, requires a significant amount of effort.
It's me. I'm some people.
for real, condescending take by the other commenter. They have no idea the resolve it took to put myself in that situation. I can't help that I was out of place, except if I had refused to even go? What would that have accomplished?
It's okay. Take a deep breath and do a single item on your self-care list. You did good.
This self-fellatio is really sad ngl. I literally have the same issues in social situations, but I'm actually doing something about it
A) They don't say they didn't they to socialize, just that it's what they did.
B) You're basing this of incredibly limited information. You have no idea how severe their issues are or even really what they are, so no you probably don't "literally have the same issues"
C) Going out at all sounds like it is them doing something about it. Just because they haven't made as much progress as you doesn't mean they aren't working hard at improving.
Yeah no shit. It's me aswell. But when I take the effort to go someplace I'm not going to sit and twiddle my thumbs
eh, mighty presumptuous of you, who weren't even there. How would you know?
I sat there after being left to struggle on my skates by the people I went with, falling a dozen times, alone - and that was actually the best part, in that moment I did have fun, and it was random strangers who encouraged me and had a laugh with me.
But in a huge room with so many people all moving in different directions, lights flashing in the dark, loud music, it was very overwhelming and disorienting. I had trouble recognizing people, and I sat there because all our stuff was there, and I knew they would come back eventually.
It just wouldve been nice to have someone take my hand and help me onto the rink. I asked for that, and they knew I couldn't skate, but it was more important for them to get practice and show off.