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Don’t You Know Who I Am?

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[–] [email protected] 375 points 10 months ago (3 children)

This kinda happened to me back in the nineties.

A former manager, no longer with our company, got word that I was interviewing for a new job.

She took it upon herself to call my then current manager to inform him that I was looking for a job.

To this he responded that not only was he aware of the situation, but he had helped refer me and and was facilitating the process because my wife had just gotten pregnant, the new job was double the income, and I was gonna need that, and he was happy for me.

I still fantasize about bringing severe misfortune to that woman.

[–] [email protected] 175 points 10 months ago (2 children)

Who the hell calls up people’s employers and rats them out over stuff that shouldn’t be anyone’s business?

[–] [email protected] 76 points 10 months ago (1 children)

People that weren’t beat up enough as kids for snitching

[–] [email protected] 53 points 10 months ago (2 children)

I'd argue the opposite. It's all about power. The ex-manager was feeling powerless. By snitching on the employee, they gained a small measure of power over their world. Getting beaten up/bullied as a child will make you feel VERY powerless. Unless that trauma is resolved, that will continue into adulthood. They will then likely lash out in exactly this way.

More likely, they weren't given the love needed to realise the compounding power of positive action and self confidence. The current manager was using exactly that. He was helping a friend out, at cost to himself. He had the confidence he could deal with the minor loss though, and that it would pay off down the line (even if only in a warm fuzzy feeling, of helping someone out).

Basically, less beatings, more hugs.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 10 months ago

The hugs will continue until morale improves.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 10 months ago

And yet despite all this, there's a point where people should just know better.

I think it's fair to acknowledge people's struggles and still expect better of them.

[–] [email protected] 22 points 10 months ago

people don't realize every job is held by a human too that probably doesnt care about mundane stuff either

[–] [email protected] 55 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Wow, what a conniving and scheming little tattle-tale.

[–] [email protected] 32 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

The sort of person who volunteers to go on weekend "team building exercises" with a reply-all email.

Recently they'd have been advocating a return to the office, despite most of the bosses being happy to carry on working from bed.

[–] FreshLight 3 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I still fantasize about bringing severe misfortune to that woman.

I hope you don't mean your wife

[–] [email protected] 3 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Nah. While I've got zero desire to associate with my ex-wife in any way, shape, or form, we are both substantially different people today than the petulant selfish people we both were when we split up. I wish no ill will toward her.

[–] FreshLight 2 points 10 months ago

What was meant as a joke caused a very mature and well-refleced reply.

Thank you for sharing!