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Shouting at children can be as damaging as physical or sexual abuse, study says (www.theguardian.com)

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Parents who shout at their children or call them “stupid” are leaving their offspring at greater risk of self-harm, drug use and ending up in jail, new research claims.

Talking harshly to children should be recognised as a form of abuse because of the huge damage it does, experts say.

The authors of a new study into such behaviour say “adult-to-child perpetration of verbal abuse … is characterised by shouting, yelling, denigrating the child, and verbal threats”.

“These types of adult actions can be as damaging to a child’s development as other currently recognised and forensically established subtypes of mistreatment such as childhood physical and sexual abuse,” the academics say in their paper in the journal Child Abuse & Neglect.

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Yeah, I think an important thing parents need to do (apart from tearing down their kids for no reason) is differentiate DOING something dumb versus BEING dumb.

A comment my dad made long ago when I was young kinda stuck with me "For a kid who's really smart you sure do some really dumb shit sometimes"

I've tried to phrase things like that to my kids, not "you dumbass why did you do that?" but more along "you're smart enough to know you shouldn't do that, so why did you?"

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I don't have a better solution, but “you’re smart enough to know you shouldn’t do that, so why did you?” feels a lot like the "you're smart but you don't apply yourself" I got a lot as a kid that always made me feel inadequate.

I fucked up sometimes, I didn't do it on purpose and asking me why I did it as if I consciously made a decision to be wrong on purpose and wanting an explanation is basically asking me to either lie or say "i don't know" which was never the "right answer."

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

More about analysing the thinking that led to the situation. In most cases it's things that they know or were told not to do but guy caught up in the moment

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Or you could use positive reinforcement instead of belittling your kids. You can explain, why stuff they did was wrong without calling them dumb. They are kids after all, they don't know stuff, have a lot to learn and it is hard for them to completely grasp the consequences of their actions.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

And this is belittling then, how?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

He didn't call them dumb he called their actions dumb. Wow u missed the entire point of his post.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Just read the other comment strain, where people argue, that exactly this parenting fucked them up. Positive reinforcement is the go to parenting style.