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Adults who have lost a spouse or SO, how do you cope? (feddit.de)

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Lost my wife (34) to cancer last month and I haven't found any good resources to help me. How do you cope with their loss? Please remove if this isn't allowed.

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I lost my husband almost 8 years ago and my best advice is to find support. Don't isolate yourself. For me, family and friends were there and available but I couldn't seem to open up to them. I found a Google chat group of widow(er)s that worked for me. Any time, day or night, I could text that group of people who understood this utterly un-understandable grief. They helped me not feel alone as I found my path through it.

Message me and I'll be happy to give you my contact info if you need someone to talk to.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Thank you for the advice. I've been on my own a lot, so when things get hard I tend to turtle in my shell until I can cope. My concern with grief groups is that I don't think I'll be able to cope with other people's grief currently. I had considered looking for a caregiver support group when my wife was in treatment, but I just expected it would be other people like myself who had no concept of how to get by and deal with the difficulties that I was also going through.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

You may try a few groups before you find the right place for you. Grief is hard to navigate and no one is going to have all the answers you're seeking. But there are people who can stand with you through this.