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Do you think it's "creepy" for two consenting adults with a large age gap to date? (kbin.social)
submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
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I don't believe it's creepy for two consenting adults with a large age gap to date. If a 25 year old woman dates a 50 year old man, I don't think it's creepy. It's none of my business. I don't judge them.

A man who dates younger women is called "creepy." A woman who dates younger men is called a cougar. Leonardo DiCaprio was judged harshly for dating a 19 year old woman. Most older women are not judged for dating younger men.

Sometimes it's hard to find a partner of the same age. For example, if a man divorces at 50, it would be hard to find a 50 year old woman. He would have to date someone younger.

The double standard is that men get judged harshly. Society has to change it's attitude.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I think the larger issue is that men's sexuality is demonized by both traditionalists and feminists. If it's not age gap, it'll be something else.
As for me, I realized in my divorce that the family court system's bias is to protect itself (the state). If they think your soon-to-be-wife isn't capable of supporting herself, they will move as much money from you to her as is possible. So I narrowed my acceptable prospects to within 5% of my income, 10% of my age, and minor children are now a deal breaker.
Which in my area shrank my dating pool size to zero. No great loss on either side.