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TL;DR - they are rude to vendors (caterer, venue, photographer, DJ)
I was a wedding DJ for over 10 years and I’ll tell you one thing…if one of them is shitty to either you or another vendor they don’t seem to last. Loudly complaining about the catering staff or venue, photographer or DJ, being shitty to people in general. Making it through your wedding day without being an asshole is easier than marriage in my humble opinion. Being nice to other human beings, kind and patient seems to be a sign it WILL last…
One comes to mind, one of the few Mormon receptions I’ve ever done. Bride was pissed the dance floor wasn’t filled when “Thriller” was played. They didn’t serve a meal (only snacks), no alcohol and most of the people there were not invited to the ceremony since it’s at the temple thing where non-Mormons are not allowed. Those things make for an awkward event and of course most people did not dance or have a good time in general. Her family couldn’t stand her but paid for everything. She spent most of the reception bitching about different vendors (photog, food, me). Husband apologized saying she is “just being s butthead.” She is probably the only Mormon person I have ever seen be rude to other people. No way they stayed married.
I would be surprised if many bridezillas or douchegrooms stayed married.
Other couples come to mind where different things went horribly wrong, responsible party apologizing profusely, certain they have a one star review or other consequences coming (if you’ve ever seen online wars between brides and vendors, or going to court over a debacle, that’s what I mean)…coupled brush it off and laugh and have fun, say thank you…yeah they stay married.
I've been to one Mormon wedding (it was outdoor) but it was similar to what you shared. Honestly you could have mistaken it for a weekend church gathering with snacks with how boring and tamed it was. Everyone sat. Everyone was stiff lipped and just being polite while sipping on a bottle of seltzer water.
I'm not Mormon so I asked other folks and they said it was a successful wedding.
Like wtf.
Yep the part where the ceremony is private makes it pretty awkward for non Mormons. After typing this I realize I did dj another one that was normal…no alcohol but there are a good amount of non religious people who choose a dry wedding because their family are drunkards and would ruin it.
Do you know they didn't stay married? I'd be pretty surprised if they got a divorce if they were part of the church.
I had to confirm and spent 20 minutes searching Facebook and unfortunately you are right. I was 90% sure they had after talking to his sister a month after the wedding. I was feeling around for whether or not I should apologize since the bride was so unhappy…she said oh no none of us can stand her. Fun times.