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Do you think it's "creepy" for two consenting adults with a large age gap to date? (kbin.social)
submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
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I don't believe it's creepy for two consenting adults with a large age gap to date. If a 25 year old woman dates a 50 year old man, I don't think it's creepy. It's none of my business. I don't judge them.

A man who dates younger women is called "creepy." A woman who dates younger men is called a cougar. Leonardo DiCaprio was judged harshly for dating a 19 year old woman. Most older women are not judged for dating younger men.

Sometimes it's hard to find a partner of the same age. For example, if a man divorces at 50, it would be hard to find a 50 year old woman. He would have to date someone younger.

The double standard is that men get judged harshly. Society has to change it's attitude.

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Sometimes when the difference is too big, I get a strange feeling about it - but I also don't like to judge people. But there is always a potential for a bad power dynamic since older people will often have more material mean and maybe more important life experience, to play the emotional immaturity of the younger person. But that's the same for women and man, and is more a case by case thing.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yes, sometimes the younger person is a gold digger.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

True, which is also shitty - except if that's what everyone involved is into.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

The younger person is predatory in that case. Older people don't always have more power.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Never claimed that older people always have more power. They have more experience, which can lead to better understanding of the word and had more time to improve their material conditions. But there are for sure naive and poor old people. That's why I concluded that it's a case by case situation - since it's not age but power dynamic that can(!) be problematic.