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Do you think it's "creepy" for two consenting adults with a large age gap to date? (kbin.social)
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I don't believe it's creepy for two consenting adults with a large age gap to date. If a 25 year old woman dates a 50 year old man, I don't think it's creepy. It's none of my business. I don't judge them.

A man who dates younger women is called "creepy." A woman who dates younger men is called a cougar. Leonardo DiCaprio was judged harshly for dating a 19 year old woman. Most older women are not judged for dating younger men.

Sometimes it's hard to find a partner of the same age. For example, if a man divorces at 50, it would be hard to find a 50 year old woman. He would have to date someone younger.

The double standard is that men get judged harshly. Society has to change it's attitude.

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[โ€“] Hypnosis4162 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I believe it's important to avoid a blanket judgment when it comes to these cases, as labeling all of them as creepy oversimplifies the situation. Each case should be considered individually.

For instance, if a man is drawn to a much younger woman solely due to her age, that does raise concerns. Similarly, if he's pursuing younger women for the sake of exerting control, that's undeniably unsettling.

On the other hand, if a man genuinely values a woman's personality, appreciates her qualities, and they share a mutual affection, there shouldn't be an issue. Assuming that a woman is being exploited solely due to a significant age difference undermines her intellectual capabilities.

It's vital not to rush to judgment without the full context.