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[–] Daefsdeda 16 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I have full compassion but I don't understand how it works and am interested in people to tell me how# it works. So if anyone is willing please let me know!

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago (2 children)

For some people, kink is about power exchange and roleplay, not always about sex. Kink is another type of activity and attraction (like, there's friendship, romance, sexual partnership, and kink). Just like how romantic and sexual attraction often go together but you can separate them out sometimes (friends with benefits), I find that sexual and kinky activity often but not always go together.

For example, you could be friends with benefits except the benefits deal with your mind (power exchange, playing around) and not so much your sexual organs. That could be friendship, kink, and not sex.

[–] Murdoc 6 points 1 year ago

I'd add to put it simply, something can make you happy without it turning you on. Like other interests.

[–] burndown 3 points 1 year ago

Thank you! I appreciate the perspective :)

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago

Hello! I'm a similar way to what is described in the post. The common term used to refer to this is "Aegosexual" (aego parsing as a-ego, "no ego")

I enjoy looking at nsfw/kink content, but there is no fantasy to participate in the acts they depict. I only want to enjoy it as an observer.