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11 / 12:30 is pretty rough. No call or text?
it's appalling ๐
Got a message saying they'd be running late, but didn't get anymore updates until they got there, despite me asking.
That is just no respect for your time. Not a good friend.
I could've just sat down and studied - that's what we were there for - but I couldn't find a spot in the area we were supposed to meet. If I had just gone myself to the area I was going to go in, it would've been fine.
Next time when they are a bit late go to your work area , send them a message telling them where you are, and say you will wait for them there
If they complain tell them your time is valuable. ( and it really is , it's not just words )
I just realised I did end up going to my work area, got set up, and then I had to go out and get them because I was sitting in a ID card required space that they couldn't enter.
But yeah, next time, I will go somewhere they can enter.
Sounds like the same friend who keeps arriving late.
It's actually a different "friend" unfortunately. I've had to set boundaries with them because they were ruminating about a problem and bringing me down. That's why we were meeting up to study, not chit chat. Today they brought up that problem, despite me communicating to them that constantly bringing up a problem and pretty much trauma dumping on me was a problem. So I am done with them I think.
The other late friend has improved quite a bit.