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Already answered: they wrote young females.
They wrote mutuals.
Nope: question clearly stated above about picking over a word.
You get points, though, for picking over the message instead of a word: notice females not mentioned. 👍
And you just said "females" refers to women or girls.
So if they are sending friend requests to "young females" then they are sending friend requests to "young women" or "young girls".
If they don't want to sound like they are sending friend requests to the young girls of their coworkers (all of their mutuals after all) then "young women" would have been the better word to use.
Nope, doesn't follow logically. As I wrote at the link you willfully ignored, it could mean girls or young women, since they are female & they are young: I think you know that. Some word choices circumvent disagreements over words with vague distinctions: while no choice is wrong or offensive, young female is less opinionated & unlikely to clash with varied opinions on the distinction between girls & young women.
Your diversion, however, leads nowhere & doesn't answer the question raised before.
So how young are the girls OP is upset about not accepting his friend request? If there's concern that some people would refer to them as "girls" instead of "young women" the grossness of the statement stands.
You go on this long when people make grammatical errors like using the wrong "their" in their posts? Or is it just excusing language the dehumanizes women that gets you fired up?
I don't know & neither do you: the words are vague as you likely know. A sensible interpretation: they're discussing girls who could be young women & vice versa.
They didn't say they were upset.
Not really, and still not answering the question: you do that an awful lot.
You've never encountered older women who want to be called girls or girls who want to be called women or people sensitive about their age who find the wrong word offensive? They averted that minefield.
You're digressing & excusing treating females like a dirty, toxic word by nitpicking any mention of it. I'm not here (1) pretending the use of females is offensive, (2) failing to properly articulate how the problem isn't the word when (3) we all can see the context isn't offensive.
The question remains: what good does that advance? I understand why misogynists would want you to keep promoting their usage of that word: if everyone stigmatizes the noun female, then it becomes generally accepted as a dirty, toxic word, so yay misogyny.
Nonetheless, they're the minority, and the common usage of noun female isn't offensive until we change it.
Anytime someone says “can’t use females anymore, misogynists use it” instead of resisting that by reasserting the more common usage, they’re letting a minority like those misogynists take over & decide the meaning of language for the majority. (Unwitting) accomplices take capitulation a step further by policing language to promote & enforce misogynist meanings: regardless of intent, that's you.
Language & cultural conventions take cooperation: stop cooperating with & caving to misogynists. Definitely stop actively supporting them.
If you're going to advocate for a cause, then stop incompetently betraying it. Your cause deserves better than incompetent advocates like you. So tell us: what good is that language policing advancing?