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How to outsource life planning? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I'm completely inept at organizing changes in my life, which means I waste a many weeks being 'stuck' when I could be out living/working somewhere interesting/etc. I was watching Top Gear the other day and I realized that what I really need is to have 'producers' like they do on the show who take care of the logistics of things so that the protagonist can just sail through. I realize that this doesn't come for free so I would be willing to join a group where one such plan is made for the whole group, or switch to a job where having someone plan your life (at least the working part) is a requirement of the job. In other words, I am willing to trade some of my sovereignty/independence for this. Any recommendations? (Just for context, I am not in the US and I'm not old.)

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Unless you’re very wealthy, you can’t hire someone to functionally be your mother.

What you can do, is sign up for interest groups that meet on a set schedule, then build your routine around that.

For example,

I go bowling with my friend each Sunday. I go out to dinner and meet people every Wednesday. I go to the gym every Tuesday and Thursday.

Just like that, I have 4/7 days of my week more or less planned, including working. Everything else radiates around those plans. I go to the barber on Wednesday, because I want to look good for dinner. Saturday is a self care day, because I’m tired from the weeks happenings on tues-thurs.

Friday stays open as a “fuck it we ball” night. Fuck Mondays, I don’t do on mondays.

What you’re looking for here is 110% unrealistic, even if you could afford a personal assistant to keep track of your schedule for you you would still have to have things to do to structure that schedule around.

Tl;dr, in a super loving way, grow up. Or enlist in your countries military, then you don’t have to think about your day at all for years.