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I want to ask for help to deal with the cognitive dissonance I am experiencing. This information is proof that I (if this study applies to me) will discriminate people based on something they cannot control... which is wrong, correct?
There's nothing wrong with having preferences. Discrimination gets a bad rap because of it's association with racism, homophobia, etc, but everybody discriminates all the time, every day, typically about incredibly simple stuff. At the end of the day, it's just recognizing differences in people and making decisions based on those differences. Yeah, you shouldn't let something like race or gender impact a decision to hire someone, but you're already discriminating against one gender when selecting romantic partners. (unless you're bisexual and have exactly a 50/50 preference) If you're only attracted to people with athletic builds, you'll be discriminating against tons of people with health conditions. If you're looking for a goth partner, you're discriminating against all the people with happy families. I don't really think discriminating over pheremones is any different.
I understand your point (I think I do) rationally. The difference is that I feel that any discrimination (figure, style, voice) is wrong... which is extreme, correct? I wasn't very anxious about those because they felt controllable, and now I learn there is a different trait which I might not be conscious of, affecting my behaviour. That (belief) causes anxiety.
So you're anxiety isn't because they can't control the trait, but because you can't control or direct the impulse. Makes sense, because you are being directed by an unknown force.