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So straight out the gate: I don't ever really flirt (yes, even if I like the girl). And I'm not sure whether I should change strategies. So hence my question.
Note: I am a guy.
Edit: Thank you all for your input. I have come to the realisation I need to let the other party (better) know I am romantically interested in them. Either by means of flirtation or otherwise.
If I'm having a friendly chat with someone and I suggest we meet again in a different setting, wouldn't that be a clear enough sign?
I'd say yes. That'd be a clear sign. And bordering on what I'd call flirting. If you say "Hey, I really enjoyed that conversation, let's meet for a coffee some day, how can I text you?"
It'd say it's polite and does the job. And there's no need to be super explicit, unless you want to initiate a one-night-stand.
When given chance, this is basically the way I go about it. Just a quick on-the-side question: How quickly do you usually suggest something like that?
What would you call flirting?
Just a note about flirting, communication, and fear of rejection.
If you're being subtle in a conversation to avoid coming on too strong and form a relationship... don't be. Any relationship you form by cloaking your personality will weaken when you reveal your true self.
The goal in dating shouldn't be to form a relationship, it should be to form a good relationship. Jumping into a bad relationship that you just barely work in is going to waste your time and cause a lot more grief than anything else.
If my advice is a bit surprising that's fair - there's a reason the divorce rate is so high among young couples and you really don't want to go through that experience.
Really good points.
Own yourself, your goals, your intentions. People can sense/read when your behaviour doesn't seem to align with what we think is concealed intentions.
Nearly all people enjoy when someone has the sense of self to be forward.