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Does anyone else get so tired and depressed from saying you're good when people ask how you are? (lemmy.world)

submitted 14 hours ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Every day, all day, I have to lie to clients at work and tell them I'm good. I'm far from good and lying about it constantly is killing me.

I'm incredibly lonely and almost everything I usually enjoy feels like a goddamn chore.

Anyone else here feel like that? If so, how do y'all cope?

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 12 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago) (1 children)

I don't, I rely an ready made sentences that require no effort on my part are that are not lies at all. Depending who's asking when someone is asking me how well I'm I will answer (it's in French)

'Je vais bien, pas le choix!' (I'm doing well, no choice!) or more often 'Je vais toujours bien, c'est défendu d'aller mal!' (I'm always well, It's forbidden to feel bad!'). Edit I will more often than not smile, saying that.
'Bien sur et toi?' (sure, and you?) and, yep, I purposefully do not answer the question.

I don't lie (I may even hint that I may not be doing that well, in the first type of answers) but I also shamelessly use the fact that most people don't give the slightest crap how well I really am when they're asking. That's small-talk 101. Like saying 'the weather is nice today, isn't it?'

The less interactions I have with the kind of persons who rely on small-talk, the happier I'm. So, it never bothers me to be 'polite' as I know how efficient it is to shorten the time and energy I waste with them.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

Curiosity question, is it common where you're from for people to ask how you're doing as a form of greeting? I had always heard it was such an American thing to do.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 12 hours ago* (last edited 11 hours ago)

Here in France it's probably the norm the moment it's some other person you vaguely know. Or if there is no 'power' or authority relation involved.

That said, things may be different for younger people (I'm in my 50s) as I've noticed they don't talk that much in person.

Edit: typos. Cooking at the same time I'm trying to post a comment is not the best idea ;)