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Do you use deoderant? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 2 years ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I don't use deoderant; I don't feel the difference and I never really cared much about my smell; but my parent keeps bringing it up and it's annoying.

Also, what's wrong with smell? Human smells differ anyway.

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[–] [email protected] 32 points 2 years ago (2 children)

That's not the point, and one's offensive smell is a massive barrier to employment.

I really don't understand people like you.

[–] Peppycito 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I find perfume highly offensive.

[–] darth_helmet 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

The dose makes the poison. A little scent can be nice, but it needs to be a hint. The problem is that most folks seem to think they need to overpower all other smells in every room they’re in. That’s offensive for sure.

[–] dxc 2 points 1 year ago

I have learned the best way to put on perfume is to spray it so thin, that other people can only smell it when they hug you. That's a special and intimate moment for them then.

[+] [email protected] -9 points 2 years ago (1 children)

one’s offensive smell is a massive barrier to employment

Of course. I know. Everybody knows. I'm simply suggesting that something being a fact isn't making it okay or good.

I really don’t understand people like you.

What kind of person do you think I am?

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

What kind of person do you think I am?

A contrarian who would rather play these stupid games instead of helping a comrade out by recognizing a problem they have and giving good advice? You're not helping here, you're just enabling poor hygiene because you're way too preoccupied with playing the devil's advocate.

You said

Are you doing everything that will better your chances at getting a job or a date?

in response to someone saying

They’re trying to help you learn the things that will help you get a job, or have friends, or go on dates. In short, they’re being a parent. Help them help you.

Notice how you conveniently left out the part about this helping to get a person friends? Instead, you fixated on them being hygienic only for the sake of getting a job or dates. Why did you do that? Surely you understand the importance of hygiene in relation to making/having friends-- something extremely important for one's mental health?

Stop playing this game. It especially sucks because you're playing this contrarian game when someone in a bad situation is basically asking for a reality check, but instead of giving them a reality check you're just entertaining/enabling their incorrect beliefs.