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I know sex toys are generally a personal thing. But they're also expensive and fun. How would you feel if a guy you're hooking up with owned a vibrator and wanted to use it on you?

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (2 children)

If the knowledge that vibrators exist makes you that uncomfortable that's on you

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Idk man. I think we (you) are doing everyone a disservice if we don't use any of the features Lemmy offers, and just post everything to AskLemmy. Disregarding if it's intimacy, Linux questions, tech support... IMO this community is for casual talk. And I like that Lemmy offers me the ability to tailor my feed to my interests. It just doesn't work if people don't honor that and use it as one big spam board and set none of the communities or checkboxes correctly.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

It's not that it can make individuals uncomfortable here.

It's that if someone's walking by at work and sees that, it can get reported to HR.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

In this situation, someone is at work, looking at their phone. Another person enters their personal space and looks directly at their phone and reads the word "vibrator". That person is so shocked and offended they call HR who punishes the person on their phone?

Yeah I'm not going to censor myself for this highly specific scenario.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Would you ask someone in HR this question, if you were in an elevator with them? Would you bring this up with your parents or some kids?

Some smell tests I'd use for determining if something is not safe for work.

Quite frankly marking something that could be NSFW isn't about you. It's a courtesy to others who could view it is nsfw. You're not required to be courteous, of course.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

I don't talk to HR or to cops. I'd definitely talk about this with my parents, and I'd assume any kids old enough to be on this site have already had basic sex education.

Maybe instead of insisting on censorship you should examine your own issues?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago)

I don't talk to HR

That's a copout and you know it lol. If you wouldn't discuss this with HR, it's a good sign that it's NSFW.

Assume any kids old enough to be on this site have already had basic sex education

This is about whether or not the content is nsfw, not about whether or not folks should see this. Marking nsfw content as nsfw is not censorship, nor does it prevent people who want to see it from seeing it.