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AITAH My brother is a Musk apologist and I no longer want to come to his wedding (lemmy.world)

submitted 14 hours ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I’ve had several conversations/arguments recently with my brother making clear my system of values and my hatred for the wealthy. He is nearly diametrically opposed on all accounts and often makes light of their actions. He goes so far as to say that poor people and people in need of social services should have to figure things out for themselves. He often defends Elon Musk and champions him for being self made.

He is getting married in a foreign country soon and I have been able to put aside our differences and have been planning on going

…up until yesterday that is. I asked him of his thoughts on Musk’s seig heil maneuver and he sent a right wing meme of democratic leaders caught mid wave, saying that “they did it first”. He continued to be avoidant and didn’t respond to me calling it a strawman.

In this moment it feels necessary to cancel my plans to send a message that this is not ok. Am I the (or an) asshole for not going to his wedding because of this?

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[–] [email protected] 26 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago) (1 children)

99.9% of these posts boil down to "should I do what I want with my own life?"

Yes, you should do what you want with your own life.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

You can do whatever you want with your own life, but many of those things will make you an asshole.

The question posed is "will doing the thing I want to do make me an asshole"

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

Is being tolerant of assholes an asshole move?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 hour ago

Could be. Tolerance and assholes aren't binary states, so it depends on the context what the measure is.

If someone intentionally steps on an ant at a funeral, and I decide I'm not going to let it slide and interrupt the eulogy to give an impassioned lecture about how needless killing is immoral, even if it's an ant, I'd be an asshole.

If I saw some schoolyard bullies beating up a kid and I didn't intervene I'd be an asshole.