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I'm female. Hell. Fucking no. Pregnancy and childbirth sound awful and I have zero interest in babies, children, or taking care of something that might grow to hate me. Too much societal stereotypical expectation as the mom. I understand today parenting is a lot more fair and equal but I would still be giving up my body and time for feeding, among other things.
But I've genuinely had to ask myself if I was a male? Would I want kids... I think one of the biggest turn offs is literally the female pregnancy/birth part. If I didn't have to carry and give birth to a child? Maybe?
I understand adoption would still be a thing but I still think as a female I'd carry responsibility that I don't want.
I've never had a desire to be around kids or babies and the screaming and crying sets me off when I'm in the vicinity. Then the teenage mood swings? I can't fathom.
Overall I'm a hard no.
I have no idea why why any woman would want to get pregnant. It looks like an absolute terrible experience all around, and that's not even accounting for the safety risks and the long term health reprocustions.
My wife hated being pregnant. It was the worst time in her life. But once the baby was there, hormones kicked in and all that pregnancy shit was instantly forgotten. Crazy how that works. She would never recommend pregnancy to anyone ever. She also hates how pregnancy is over-romanticized.
But she does recommend kids if you're willing to commit a large portion of your adult life to be centered around the kid. If helps to live in a country where parents get many benefits like up to 3 years of parental leave, additional vacation days etc. We, as the parents, are having the best time of our lives. It was a difficult decision back then, and it took me until I turned 33 to finally decide to have a kid.
Some women say they enjoy it which I cannot really fathom. I did not care for it. As for why the woman would want to get pregnant though.. I mean that's about having a kid, not about being pregnant, isn't it?
And also not to be crass, but haven't you ever had sex that's so good in that moment you and your body genuinely want to get pregnant?
Let me rephrase, then:
I'm surprised that any woman would want something enough that they'd be willing to endure pregnancy.