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[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I think I'm a really unreliable narrator. Some of the stuff I say about myself just turns out to be untrue, particularly as it pertains to likes, dislikes, and my comfort zone. I don't know myself as good as I should, and really need to learn more

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I thought that for a long time of my life. Turns out, all of my childhood my feelings, my likes and my dislikes were all invalidated constantly by everyone around me. Which lead me to have no idea who I was or what I wanted.

Not saying that's the same case for you but, might be time to do some inner work.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Man, I feel this. We weren’t allowed to be ourselves, so I’m still figuring myself out. I think I’ve made some progress, but it’s gonna take some time.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

It definitely takes time and that's ok.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

Parental gaslighting/manipulation can distort the child's ability to understand their own emotions, preferences, etc. I'm 50-something and just coming to grips with it. Hopefully you are younger and can work it out with fewer self-sabotaged careers and relationships than I have in my past :-(