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[–] [email protected] 33 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

When you’re a kid, adults use the most specious reasoning to try to make you behave properly, and then when you’re the adult you do too.

[–] [email protected] 22 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

The fuck I do. That sounds like you're just rationalizing your behavior.

By those terms, guess I'll have to consider that I am not an adult, despite being an Oregon Trail millennial.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 weeks ago

Your comment seems like a rational response to me.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 weeks ago

...aussies have biscuits named after (the wagon route, but...) the video game that popularized the phrase "You have died of dysentery?" Odd choice.

[–] [email protected] -4 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

You sound about as self aware as the adults they're referring to.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 weeks ago

Nah, kids deserve more credit than that. I'm honest with kids (to an age-appropriate level) because it's vital that they develop critical thinking skills. Considering the world they're growing up into, they're going to need all the training they can get to become able to discern fact from fiction.

I give kids legit reasons. I explore their "Why" questions. Then when I don't know the answer, I'll be honest but supportive, "I don't know, but let's find out." We have to model what being a rational adult is like, and how we come to logical conclusions. Children aren't going to learn this stuff from being brushed off or told some silly explanation.

That being said, it's important to be smart about context. It's reasonable and responsible to disengage from the conversation if someone demonstrates that they aren't arguing in good faith, whether they're an adult or a child. The problem is, a lot of adults jump to whatever explanation makes their own life easier, without any regard to how their response can shape the future adult they're speaking with. If you're truly concerned about kids' futures, you have to acknowledge that there is a lot you know that kids don't know yet. Offer them the benefit of the doubt and seize these opportunities to teach kids how to think for themselves.